Dreaming of my ex every night :-(

[Fizzerly17]

Hi all
I need help. Every night I dream of my ex partener and it's driving me crazy. We split up in November because we weren't getting along. We have bin civil for the sake of our son. In January we were going to try again as we still care for each other and missed each other. Then a week later he started dating a girl from his work and I was devastated. I've tryed to move on but my hearts just not in it so I've decided to focus all my energy on my son until my heads clear. However every night I dream of him, the dreams are so real, sometimes we are together in them and sometimes he's leaving me. Problem is when I wake up and I'm faced with reality it breaks my heart and puts me in a bad mood for the rest of the day. I need them to stop for the sake of my own sanity. Can anyone help? Xxx

[CabbageLeaves]

How long we're you together Fizzerly?

I was told it took 1 month for every year together. I was with ex for 30 yrs and yes it took me approx that long. However it constantly improved and now I think of him occasionally but with only a fleeting sadness if at all.

I did the Phoenix ritual (very woo...) But I thought it helped and was desperate like you to move on

Phoenix ritual

[Fizzerly17]

We were together for 5 years. I was ok at first when we split because my mum died in November so I was so busy with the funeral and grieving for my mum I never thought about what I had lost but now I think of him all day every day, I know deep down he won't come back because he's happy with his new lady but I can't seem to let go. Xx

[CabbageLeaves]

You will be able to. I think you have to consciously stop those interrupting thoughts though. Keep busy and try and plan things that you can look forward to

[Fizzerly17]

I hope so. I'm going to try the technique you suggested and I've just brought myself a sketch pad to keep myself busy when I'm on my own at night. I appreciate your support. Thank u xx

[faye0310]

Hi I know exactly how u feel. Me and my ex split in November after 7 years and I have a 2yo dd. I know in my heart that he won't come back but but it is so hard to stop your thoughts! All I think about is him and what he is doing and that all the things I imagined we would be doing in the future aren't going too! There is also another woman involved and its totally heart breaking. You feel like no one in the world feels like u do but u soon relise there are others who have been through all this and came out the other side. I just look forward to the days when I feel happy again. I am fine during the day when dd keeps me occupied but its when I'm on my own its the hardest. I hope things get easier for you xxx

[minkembra]

i still dream about an ex from 12 years ago he was the love of my life...to date though.

they are the most real dreams and there is a horrible sense of dislocation when i wake up.

i try to shrug it off and also to think about what it represents underneath. in my case it usually means something is making me unhappy and i am thinking of happier times rather than i literally want my ex back.

maybe your dreams are trying to help you face what has happened.?

they will get less frequent. also watch what you eat and drink before bed. it really does make a difference