This is probably going to sound daft and a bit waffly but anyway. Cut a long story short, I left my DDs dad about 7 weeks ago, shes 11 weeks old almost.
The reason I left was he mentally, sexually and financially abused me and it had been building up before baby was born but he just turned into a completley different man the day she was.
He's still carrying on the abuse. I'm currently back living with my parents now so I'm more or less safe. What I want to know though is how do victims of DV think and feel after they have left their abuser? Because sometimes all I can think is how I'm maybe overreacting. Did I imagine the abuse? Am I making a mountain out of a molehill? These sorts of questions occupy my mind all the time. Theres even times I feel guilty on him because I left and obviously took the baby. He's mentioned how Ive broke his heart because his baby has been taken from him.
Because it wasnt physical abuse apart from one night when he grabbed me and threw a glass photo frame at my head, I start doubting myself. Is this normal for domestic abuse victims? Or is it just me? Its eating me up inside. Ive been to a domestic abuse support charity and theyre helping me, they provide support in everyway from providing councelling to practicalities like benefits and finding somewhere to live. The midwife actually gave me their number because she told me he was being abusive when I explained the situation but despite all the confirmations from everyone, theres still a part of me, huge part, that feels guilty and stupid.
Im not the most articulate of people, I'm not sure if Ive explained it very well. Just want to see what other people think?
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DV, feel guilty after leaving him
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OddSocksFrillyFrock · 18/02/2013 20:37
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