should we try again?

[evasmummyk1]

New to this so apologies if I'm not quite with the right chat! Need a bit of advice, wondering if any have been in similar situation. I split with my partner 6months ago, we have dd who is 3. Since we split (suddenly, no one else involved) we have managed to maintain a good relationship for the sake of dd, and made sure that she can see us getting on together. To cut a long story short we have both realised that we still care deeply for each other and have decided to try to start again. We have decided to go slowly, date for a while and have given ourselves a 6 month time period before we decide whether to go forward to this. We have decided not to tell dd this, so she doesn't get confused. My question is, can you ever really try again? Is love enough, or in your experiences will the old problems reappear?
I know our friends and family won't all be supportive and I guess I need to know that I'm confident we can make it work before I have to defend myself!
Thanks :-)

[muddykittenheels]

Yes you can always try again- it really doesnt matter what has happened. What is really important however is that you both are really committed to making it work, otherwise its pointless

[muddykittenheels]

i always seem to have the ability to stop a post dead in its tracks... I like to see that as a positive

[Monty27]

You haven't really said what happened when you split.

That's important. If it's fixable I would always say fix it.

But not knowing the history, no-one can advise or empathise. Maybe you don't know yourself.

Having dc's is hard on some levels and is brilliant on other leves, but it can certainly test relationships.

[evasmummyk1]

Thanks. I think your right Monty. There wasn't any one thing that caused us to split other than a silly argument, but a collection of things related to parenting/ work life balance/ and generally not appreciating each other. We are hoping to get some counselling, and have a "date" tonight. Fingers crossed for me ;-)

[Monty27]

Take your time and re-evaluate stuff, it sounds as though its salvageable. Just do it slowly.

Potentially happy families can just collapse without the proper work being put in, on all levels, sadly.

Hope your date went well :)

[Midwife99]

The exact thing happened to my DH & I. We separated last May & started seeing each other again in August. We are still like boyfriend & girlfriend (more than dating) & everyone knows we are back together but we still live apart. Things are great in many ways but I am gradually becoming frustrated at his refusal to live together as a family again & the future for me without a proper financial settlement as we are in limbo. I know we appreciate & love each other more than we did however so it can work. Sod the friends/family who are not supportive. It's your lives & would be great for your DC if you all got back together.