XH and I will be getting divorced this year - we'll have been separated for two years in April and are basically amicable about the divorce.
Are we able to decide between ourselves how finances will be split or does it have to be decided by a solicitor/court? There is no house and we both have pensions (think mine is worth more than his due to having had one job for about 7 years whereas he had times of not paying into a pension). I am also unsure what is meant to happen about money I have saved post separation - XH has said that he feels it is mine alone but am I meant to give him 50% of it?
I worked part time and then stopped working when the DC were small on the belief that we weren't going to split up so there is a part of me that feels that I could be entitled to a "better" split but tbh there isn't that much money around between us and I'm not sure I want to have a battle about it.
I am going to see a solicitor for a free half hour on Friday so will ask questions then but would like a vague idea of whether what I'd like to do is practical or not first.
XH is keen to not involve solicitors at all - I was hoping to go through a resolution solicitor but XH seemingly has no money to do that. He pays maintenance at the CSA rate and earns a pretty good salary but ends up with no money .
Has anyone used a Wikivorce solicitor? Having heard tales of people spending tens of thousands on solicitors (that would leave me with negative money) I am a bit nervous, but am concerned that a DIY divorce might lead me open to problems in the future. I am concerned about what will happen when he marries his GF (she has two DC as well) and how university etc wikk be paid for but I'm not sure whether those sort of things get written into divorces or not.
Sorry for all that waffle and hopefully someone may have something constructive to say (which will probably be to ask the solicitor on Friday )
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Split of finances in divorce
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MirandaWest · 30/01/2013 12:10
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