Hi, I really hope you can help me as I am feeling very panicky and scared.
I have a 10 month old baby with my H. He became very emotionally abusive while I was pregnant and since the baby has been born. He has said and done things which I can't forgive. He keeps saying he will change but he never does (he has booked a counselling session but I am not holding out much hope that it will completely change his horrible personality).
I want to divorce him but he is threatening to get 'his lawyers' to fight for custody of our baby. He is claiming me and my family are all mentally ill (?! No evidence of this other than they don't like him!) and says if I divorce him he will do everything he can to take my baby.
What are the chances of him managing this, or of him getting 50/50 custody? I am on maternity leave, so am the primary carer. He sees the baby for about 30 mins before bed during the week. He claims he will get a nanny, but would a court take a baby from its mother to give to a nanny?
He also says he will keep 'his' house (he has paid the mortgage as I have been on maternity leave). I'm not too bothered about the money aspect but I adore my child and I can't bear to lose her for half a week. He has two other children who he sees once a fortnight so I think he is just trying to punish and scare me, but he is cruel and ruthless and would probably do it just to hurt me.
I am really worried about this and would really really appreciate any advice.
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H trying to intimidate me into staying married by taking my child
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ruthie2468 · 21/01/2013 14:04
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