Hello, I have not posted for many years but have recently returned to Mumsnet. Sadly, my marriage has broken down as my STBXH turned out to be not, as I thought, someone who made a mistake but wanted to put things right(when he had his first affair 10 yrs ago) but a serial philanderer with no remorse or insight.
Anyway, I've engaged a lawyer who has just sent me an outline of costs-and it's enough to make me want to stay married!! And that's just my costs-STBXH's would be presumably similar-leaving not much change from £100K. Yes you read that correctly. So what I have decided to do is as much as I can myself but I hoped someone can reassure me that it is possible to do it yourself even when there are pensions and investments to divvy up. STBXH does not want a divorce, which could be a sticking point. But financially I am better off staying married but separated in any case, so I am quite happy to let things tick along for now.
The lawyer has done the legal job of telling me all the pitfalls of staying married but being separated but of course, this is worse-case scenario. I understand that that doesn't mean worse-case scenario won't happen but really don't want to irritate STBXH by spending money on legal advice when we have the capacity to reach an agreement ourselves-I know it can be done-can it?
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Velcropoodle · 29/12/2012 22:04
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