Abusive ex husband/ child maintenance.

[gtedder1]

i made the mistake of spending christmas with my ex and our ds. it was ds first xmas and we thought it be better to spend it together at ex's house as i dont have my own place and it being our sons 1st xmas...we thought it be better to spend it together in one place as things had been quite amicable between us since our split too. Anyway, cut long story short...he physically attacked me on the day after losing his temper. i have a huge bruise on on my arm. since being seperated..he has been buying ds nappies, food and other essentials but not giving me any money. if i need clothes for ds, he says he wont give me the money but will buy them himself. i am going to report the xmas incident to police tomorrow and understand that social may get involved as he is violent. i hav been dropping ds to him every wkend so far. now shud i just cut all ties with him and go thru csa for child maintenance? And contact solicitors? Feel confused and not sure what to do.

[VBisme]

Go to the police, I imagine they will contact SS, you will need to contact CSA.

[Collaborate]

Also see a solicitor about getting an injunction. Where are you based?

[gtedder1]

i am in kent.

[Soila]

Hi gtedder1,

Are you worried about your child's safety?

Has he been violent towards you little one?

[butterflybee]

I just wanted to say I'm sorry you had such a horrible Christmas. How did the police visit go? Women's Aid will have lots of support and advice about what to do next: www.womensaid.org.uk/ or 0808 2000 247

[Meglet]

Yes, go to the police, they may well refer to SS but SS will be happy as long as you have got rid of him. Womens Aid might be able to help too. Maybe get a contact centre if he wants to see his DS.

Cut ties with him and go to the CSA. The sooner you put your foot down the better. He's not a good dad.