my sil and DB are going through a bitter divorce.
I have supported them both equally for years and have been as impartial as possible during past separations.
A year ago my sil decided that i was on my db's side. i found it so hard to keep listening to her vitriol and defended him on a couple of issues about 18 months ago.
she hasnt wanted to speak to me since.
soon after this, she started boycotting my dds' birthdays and stopped sending cards etc. this is hardtbh, as she has known them since birth, and they are now aged 10 and 8.
i still send cards and gifts to her and my nieces at her address, not just my db's, as a gesture of reconciliation/ goodwill, i suppose.
now, obviously their dc are the main casualties in all this, but i think it's terribly sad that my sil is happy to cut all ties with her nieces (my dds), whom i thought she had been very fond of.
is it usual for nephews/ nieces by marriage to be dropped in this way? am i being naive to think that she 'should' still have affection for her nieces and be prepared to send a birthday card even if she finds face to face contact difficult?
do you have experience of this, anyone?
my dds want to know if x is still their aunty and i don't know how to respond. it is very hurtful, tbh.
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do you have contact with nieces and nephews (by marriage) after divorce?
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ooby · 21/12/2012 19:23
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