Our little daughter is 16 months old now, and since she was born, the relationship between my wife and I has slipped away. We never used to argue, then we were arguing the whole time. I lost my job just after the baby was born, and my wife had post-natal depression, so things have been very tough.
A month ago, my wife told me she wanted to separate. So I've been living at my parents (I'm 32, so that's been interesting) while she figures out whether she wants our marriage to survive or not. Her big issue is that I didn't support her enough when the baby was born, emotionally or financially. She makes some fair points and, well, some unfair ones too.
So we've had a month apart. She wanted space to think it through but I've been fighting for our relationship. Yesterday, she told me that she thinks we're over and need to move on. She doesn't love me. She also admitted that she'd slept with someone else in recent days - a one-night stand from a bar. I didn't think I could feel any worse, but it devastated me in horrible new ways.
I haven't been the most attractive proposition since she told me it was over: all tears and neediness and long emails and wanting to talk. Is this the point where I just accept it's over, or is there anything new I could try? I feel like our little family needs me to fight for it, and that problems can be worked through. It's a distant hope though.
Thanks for reading.
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JDxx · 21/12/2012 10:58
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