At the end of my tether with my ex-partner and hoping someone can provide me with some advice on the best way forward.
Ex and I split up in Aug and we have a dd of 2 and a half together. I moved out of our joint owned home and have been living with my parents for the past few months and continuing to pay half of the mortgage for the house he is living in by himself.
Ex has refused to sell the house, but is unable to support himself an get re-mortgaged on his sole salary so asked if I would be willing to let him rent out the third bedroom to a lodger. DD usually stays there 3 nights a week so have declined this request as I don't feel safe having a random stranger in the house with my daughter, along with anyone else they decide to bring home (fair enough?).
Earlier this week, I told ex p I would no longer be paying the mortgage. I have told him he can either default on the payment and let the house get repossessed, try to get financial support from his parents to cover my half of the mortgage, or sell. He's left me with no other choice as I cant save to move out of my parents, all the time I am still paying his mortgage. He turned up in a new car last week also, as if to add more insult to injury.
Now he is refusing to talk to me on the phone and I am nervous that if I allow our daughter to stay with him, he wont call me if anything is wrong or there is an accident. He's a good dad on the whole, but doesn't have a particularly strong relationship with our daughter and tends to work on his own agenda when she is there, rather than making an effort to play with her. I am worried that if I let her go over there, he will not bring her back, which will undoubtedly be detrimental to her.
I am tempted as he is being so unreasonable, to just keep our daughter with me and let him fight me for custody for access. He argues with me about everything for what feels like the sake of trying to prove me wrong, but never has our daughters best interest at heart.
What to do.... has anyone been in a similar situation?
Thanks for any advice you can share! x
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Frustrated with immature ex - do I let our daughter stay with him?
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Mybabysmellsofbiscuits · 12/12/2012 14:28
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