XH euro camp plans making me so sad......

[vole3]

I know I need to grow a pair, but just so sad thinking about DS age 5 going on holiday next year with XH, his girlfriend and her kids.
It's the sort of holiday that we had talked about going on as a family. DS will have a great time and I would never deny him the opportunity. Just feeling sad that I won't be there to share his first foreign trip.

[Bonsoir]

Gosh, I don't know what anyone can say to make you feel better. Difficult.

Can you make a plan for a foreign trip for you and DS (even if it is in the dim distant future)?

[amarylisnightandday]

Well that sucks arse. I would feel X-ray about it too. Plan something nice for yourself while he's away and maybe plan some stuff to do with ds when he gets back.

[vole3]

Afraid to say the only stuff planned for when they'll be away is work as it will be during the summer holidays and my leave is booked for the end of the summer.

[cleef15]

Hi, are you not able to beat the EX to the first foreign holiday and take your son for a weekend to a European city or canvas etc are pretty reasonable in the May school holiday. I know finances may not be great but I'm sure it is a possibility.

[vole3]

No time, no funds & no passports. Might be able to do something about the last 2, but leave is in short supply as only allowed 1 half term and 3 other school holiday weeks per 12 months.

[Nurse30emma]

((huggs)) that must be hard xxxxx

[hotbot]

So sorry you are feeling sad, it's an old run out phrase, but. They do only remember the time you spend with them, not particularly the location. We spent a weekend in a B and B in Scarborough last year and they have never stopped talking about it. Nd it rained , but we had lovely walks, chips in a bag.......
Hope you feel better soon.

[lizzie479]

Vole I would be gutted aswell as my ex and I always talked about going to Eurocamp in Holland together as a family so if (which will probably happen) in a couple of year he takes the kids with new GF I will probably sob like a baby. My only advice is to plan your own holiday with the kids and if money is an issue put a little aside and make it a long term plan. And plan nice things for yourself while they are away. I am new to being a single mum and I hate not knowing what they are doing at weekends (they are too little to fill me in) let alone on holiday. It's an unnatural situation but post on here, moan/cry to friends, and then move on if you can.

[ratbagcatbag]

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In response OP my DSS has been abroad every year with his mum, with suits normally uk based. He's done the whole Disney Florida lot and everything. Holiday he talks most about was when we went to Scotland and got proper snowed in at Easter and spent two whole days building snowmen, chasing the farm labs and having snowball fights. :)

[ratbagcatbag]

With us even not suits

[vole3]

What hurts most is that I will not be with my son for significant parts of his life, not through choice and there is nothing I can do to change that.

[ratbagcatbag]

You make significant parts though a d dad will also miss some too, it's sad but you can honestly make it work. My DSS is now 14 and such a happy teenager and well balanced it has been worth everything.

DSS mum told us if there was something specific she wanted and we tried to be flexible with that and the same the other way round. Whe DSS got a big athletics award we got tickets for mum and stepdad too, it was important all his family witnessed him getting it. :)