Divorcing after 17 years together.
To avoid drip-feeding: We have the children exactly 50% of the time each. We are having a clean break. He has the marital home and will buy me out of it at 80% of the market price. He threw me out when I said I wanted to divorce and be with someone else (he has not been very nice in the past. He is very controlling with money.).
He earns nearly three times my salary but I don't want any maintenance - he is insistent on this and I don't want to make him angrier than necessary. I can pay the bills (I earn 25k). I just want a clean break.
My solicitor says we should split the pensions half and half. His is 20 x my pension pot because he worked in the fire service.
HOWEVER He accrued 7 years of this in a part-time junior role before he met me, and I'm not comfortable taking half of the pension pot because of this. (He is much older than me.) My solicitor says I am being silly though.
He is really angry; says I am being a gold digger etc.
What is fair? Or do I just take my solicitor's advice, regardless of whether I think it is the "right" thing to do?
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Feel uncomfortable about taking half of his pension
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carpetsw33per · 25/10/2012 18:25
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