Hiya - thank you for looking at this thread. Just need a little breathing space and mulling over time, and would appreciate a lot, some feedback. We got married nearly two years ago and it has been bad. As I was old (40s') children were priority and we had our beautiful baby within a year. HOwever, there has been not a week since we got married that has not been marred by rows, disagreements, and in the last 6-7 months of constant trading of insults. We simply cannot get on, and he refuses to discuss, and we disagree on everything. We lived in different countries and have independent homes from the point we were married due to our careers so he travels to see the little one every 2 weeks on average. Although I accept between us that there is no alternative to our situation (we agreed to marry without one of us moving in order that nobody had to give up his/her career), and having my daughter is the best thing that has happened to me, I have ended up being a single mother 10 out of 13 days, and he is only here to play with her at the weekend. In the last 10 months, things have got even worse as we disagree about every aspect of parenting. His being French does not help as they do things differently anyway. However, what I cannot manage is the soul destruction - his persistent deconstruction of my being ('you are crazy' 'you need help and medications') and his insistence that he has the right way and mine is wrong; and lately the personal insults, walking away whistling (eg leaving me and the 15 month old in the middle of the Olympic Park with pouring rain just because he says I told him off for something minor). In my mind, I cannot bear living another minute with him, but I cannot bear the thought of my little baby growing up in a divorced situation, or even losing her to France if he takes her with him on his time (which I am sure will be awarded to him if we were to divorce). I have no major financial concerns as I am in an independent stable profession and I would happily leave him without one single thought if not for the baby's welfare. Sorry this is so boring but i would be grateful for any comments and just chat perhaps, to help me see the trees in the woods...thanks a million x
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