My story is very long but in short my ex has the CB for both our children i have them 9 day/8nights per fortnight, but as the house wasn't worth selling and i couldn't afford the motgage we agreed he should have the benifits to assist in paying for the house. 2 years on he is now earning a substantial amount of money so i requested for the CB for one of them as, as it stand even though i have them majority of time i have no parental benifits but obviously contribute alot towards the kids, not just the general expence of them being here but uniforms, shoes etc and i have to pay CSA would you believe!
Well with in 3 months of the CB application i am i court due to a (forced on his part) breakdown in communication and he is applying for full residency.
On friday i got a call saying that the day the cafcass report was due to be filed my ex rang them with seriousy concerns about my mental health saying i was threatening to kill myself if i didn't win.
So report was changed, i am alould no contact with my children untill i have a full phyc assesment and screening by social services!
Now i wasn't that surprised by this dirty underhand last minute smear on me...what i am is though, is the total one sidedness of the report i finally got my copy of, it seems that the cafcass officer is somewhat pro dad due to his selflessness at wanting to have our children, i have been miss quoted where i am mentioned but none of my side or concerns have been acknowledged! I have been persived as a nut job who only wants her kids for financial gains! And the veiws of the children, it is clear that leading questions have be asked as they don't want to be with me....i have to convince them to go back to their dads with constant reasurance that i will see them on such and such...of and the cafcass veiw on our current contact, confussing for even an adult to grasp....they are with mummy sunday night to weds morning school drop off and every other weekend from the friday night through to weds morning now i'm sure someone with a degree might be able to work that out!?!?
Well tomorrow morning the battle commences but i wont be taking my children on holiday as planned :(
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rebeccakeir · 19/08/2012 08:30
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