Split from my ex in January & have now signed a formal separation agreement. We have in writing that he has them overnight every Sunday night and alternate weekends on the Saturday as well. This can be "altered if both parents agree". But he's planned to go to a bunch of conferences in September and October which means he is going to miss 4 out of 5 weekends in a row and hasn't even bothered to check with me.
I feel this isn't fair to me or the kids.
At the moment we are just about maintaining a civil but extremely tense relationship and if simply tell him this isn't acceptable and he needs to sort it out it's going to start a huge row. I asked him about it weeks ago (not making any demands but just querying what exactly the arrangements were) and he still hasn't replied. Frankly, I would quite happily tell him I think he is (yet again) being a complete and utter fuckwit prick but every time we argue I get really stressed out and then the kids get upset....
So in the interests of diplomacy, how do I deal with this?
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XH is going to be missing loads of weekends with kids
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Yogagirl17 · 19/08/2012 04:53
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