struggling....

[Thetallestsunflower]

Three weeks on from my emotionally abusive partner finally moving out of our family home (something I have been aiming for for some time) I am wondering why I am feeling so so down.
At first when he left I felt this kind of relief and high but this last week I have felt a huge sense of depression. There is no way I want him back and I thought I had done the grieving for the end of our relationship long ago.
Its school holidays and I just feel completely wound up by the kids. I think the seperation has effected them as they are displaying really babyish and attention seaking behaviour.
Added to that, last week, one of my friends said that a guy friend of hers had seen my fb profile pic when ive commented on her page and thought I was cute. After years of being insulted and treated badly, I was initally flattered and when she gave me his number, started messaging him on 'whatsapp' . He was at hers when I went round on Saturday and we did get on well. However, since then he has been doing nothing but send me message after message saying how amazing it was that we hit if off etc...
I am in no way what so ever looking for a relationship...two weeks after leaving a really horrible one. I feel like cr*p for leading this guy on esp as he is friends with one of my best friends and I think this is what is adding to me feeling so down.

[loveverona]

Sorry you are going through this. You are in the very early stages so don't expect too much too soon in terms of you feeling ok. My H moved out at the end of June after an amicable, for the most part, decision. I too felt relief but have been up and down since. It's a huge life change. Give yourself time and don't underestimate the effect the whole experience could have on you.

[loveverona]

And don't beat yourself up about this other guy. You're very vulnerable at this early stage and if he's worth anything he'll understand.

[crackcrackcrak]

Whoah stop beating yourself up about the random guy - it was flattering but this isnt the right time.

Re your ex - well done for getting rid and your emotions are v normal. I felt the euphoria followed by feeling crappy. You will come up again I promise. I did a course lately for separated parents and they showed us a graph - it was me right down to the insomnia curve and everything.