how do i divorce my unemployed husband?

[makeminemango]

I am feeling stuck, desparate and need some advice. I have told my husband I want a divorce and I wont go into the gory details here. He agrees but wont do anything about it or talk to me about it. He refuses to leave the house (joint mortgage). We are seeing a fab therapist who is acting almost like a mediator. I also have a solicitor (and barrister for that matter). To help me sleep tonight, can someone reassure me that I will not lose the care of my two children, aged 4 and 2. He is unemployed, from end of September will be looking for work from home. I run my own business, generally from home, I am out of the home for about 20 hous a week. I am so scared that he will get custody of the kids. Any help or reassurance most welcome.

[JammySplodger]

I'm afraid I have little experience to help you out but I'm fairly sure custody doesn't rely on employed status, more on ability to care for the DCs. Employment can change and having to rely on childcare wouldn't preclude you from being a responsible parent. Is there any good reason you wouldn't / shouldn't get at least equal custody?

As far as you living in the same house, I'd chat with your solicitor (or wait for someone to comeon here who knows the answer). I've heard of one party buying out the other to have sole ownership of the house, or the house being sold and equity split, but if you're divorcing I should think both living there will not really be an option.