Just a few hours ago I told my two lovely children, 15 and 12, that their mum and I are separating. It's one of the hardest things I've ever had to do and I now feel completely alone and confused.
It's been coming for many years as our relationship has gradually got worse. It has ended up with us not speaking for weeks on end and when we are speaking, struggling to say two words to each other without the other one taking offence.
After yet another small row the other day, I felt like I was having a breakdown and said enough. I told her a few minutes later and although upset felt some relief that there was a way out. Some hours later I told my mother, expecting her to be angry. She was initially but became sympathetic and didn't judge me, giving me her support when needed.
Don't think my wife saw it coming in hindsight and she remains angry with me and has been telling me that it's up to me to sort things out as its what I want. Think that there must have been times when she was close to leaving me in the past, so I'm shocked by her anger.
Thing is that having told the children it has suddenly become very real. I haven't got a place to go to and there isn't anyone else involved but I am now planning to leave my two children. My loves and life. I can't see a future without them, even if I see them everyday the thought of not being there day and night for them breaks my heart.
Have I made a mistake?
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Benolly · 13/08/2012 20:47
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