Hi all. Been reading some posts and it saddens me how many broken families there are with one ex being incredibly difficult!
I have done the messy divorce after having dealt with my ex cheating on me and leaving myself and our two kids then aged 5 months and 4 yrs old. It came out of nowhere, he denied it for months until I saw them together. After that i stupidly attempted to reconcile and we went back and forth foronths with him changing his mind over and over until i could not take anymore. He was 38 at the time and she was 20! She got pregnant before our divorce was finalised. Unbelievably they are still together!
I then attempted to emigrate to Australia with kids, something we had planned as a family but that got refused. All that in the space of 2 years!
I have now found someone much nicer in every way and moved areas to live with him and my kids. The distance from where I lived with my ex is only 50 miles but my ex has thrown a strop, mainly I reckon because he has lost control of me, and he feels I should do one of the journeys when he has contact with the kids. I just don't see how this is in any way fair! I've not had maintenance from him for 8 months now. He does not offer any financial support and is of the mind that because I set up CSA he does not need to offer anything other than what they take from him, when he gets a job! He hasn't even bothered to sign on whilst looking for work which makes me think he's lying. He's always worked cash on hand so I am adamant there is some dodgy dealings going on but have no proof sadly.
He has put an enforcement order on me because I refused him access to the kids after he put the kids in the car then refused to return them unless I came and collected them.
Whilst we're waiting to get the hearing date he has not made any contact with the kids either my phone or a request to see them! Yet I get penalised for offering contact and saying when he can have them! Apparently we are not allowed to tell the other parent but must ask! I am in no way ready to hold a conversation with this man.
I hope someone can give me some advice over travel arrangements with regards to who picks up and drops off the kids.
I feel so strongly that fathers rights have gone too far with their demands it affects the mothers who are doing what they can in a difficult situation where fathers cheat and break up families. They should bare the consequences of their actions, do what ever needs to be done to see their children and help out the mother who is left to care for the children in any way possible.
What a mammoth post but it really helps to get it all out again! Keep strong everyone.
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Advice please on contact orders and who does the travelling?
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blippers · 10/08/2012 23:47
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