Hi all, Ive been with my husband 12 years and married for 9, we have 3 children and over the past few months, Ive not been feeling the same, we decided a couple of months ago to make an effort but i think we have become like friends, hes a great man, hes loyal, idolises me, good dad, hard working, just a general nice guy but something is missing, in fact im not entirely sure it was ever really there if im honest. The last 2 times weve been intimate (a few nights ago and then 3 months before that, no lie) it was not happening for me, it felt so wrong, in fact afterwards i came downstairs and nearly cried (he wasnt aware)
Hes picked up on it and a couple of days ago brought the conversation up and i was honest and said i dunno what i want but i think we are like friends, we work well together with the kids and family roles etc but romatically theres no passion, we dont kiss, hardly cuddle and these are the things i miss
He has been looking at flats/houses to rent but today hes acting like nothings changed, hes abit quiet but no progress in giving us a break and finding somewhere to stay, hes asleep on the sofa now, i think im gonna leave him there when i go to bed to avoid the awkward 'where should i sleep question', he slept on the sofa last nite
Because hes quite sad and down I almost feel guilty and think 'maybe we can carry on like we are' but then i remember what sex is like and to me its not fair to keep him here, he needs someone who can love him the way he should be, he doesnt think this coz he thinks he will never love anyone as much as he loves me, hes always said he loves me more than i love him which breaks my heart, hes also said he knows hes not my mr right
Is it normal to have doubts after admitting things to each other and acknoledging things arent good, is it coz of the fear of the unknown or will i end up regretting letting him go, how do i come to these conclusions?
Im so confused! help
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Did anyone else have doubts?
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HeadsInAMuddle · 06/08/2012 00:14
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