Abusive father now has Lawyer - he wants Custody - Please Advise

[VVVVVworried]

X left 2 year ago. Left for heroin addict. He is/was also heroin addict. He was abusive towards me, he also took steroids, I was in denial but then he hit my children, not just little smacks, hard vicious smacks. I visited solicitor, to see about having him removed from the house, I was also in counselling I told this lady about smacks she reported to Social Services, I was told to go to Social Services right away. I advised I was having him removed from home, they said as long as DC stayed with g/p whilst he was in the home it was fine, they did not record this meeting after a week he was left from the house.

HE begged, he pleaded, he was sorry, he had seen the light, he was suicidal without us, he did not want a divorce he loved me more than life itself, he was bad, he could see this it would never happen again. I took thefucker him back. sad I hate myself for this.

Move on 8/9 months he left for heroin addict. I had no clue she was a heroin addict but met someone (bizarrely) they stay in a different town, she knew heroin addict g/f, her DC were in care. No way were my DC going there.

He came here to visit, he had no interest in DC, he still wanted to control me and discuss how we could ever move on from this, I couldn't. This went on for 1 year, irregulalry, no routinie, he would just show up.

I decided I could no longer have him around me as he was still controlling me, she was texting me, she even texted me to tell me they had just "made love" for first time, this went for months, I changed sim in phone. He would call the house weekly with his regrets, I changed home phone number, he told me DC would detest me when they grew up I believed him, I bought a phone so he could call them.

I said he could see DC via Lawyer, his parents when they cared for DC for 1 night per month or my parents at the weekend, he chose not to. A few months ago he asked if he could see DC through his parents I said yes, he has seen them twice in 9 months for lunch, he has questioned them on these vists regarding who comes to house. He had/may still have someone watching the house, he knew who was coming/going and one of these people was an addict I have known since school, it took a few months but I finally snapped and advised addict he could never come to the house as it was causing me hassle at home.

Heroin addict g/f children are still in care due to something to do with him, she can see then unsupervised but if he is there it MUST be supervised.

I have a letter from a safegaurder, recived this week asking my opinion on his suitability to be around young children, I have a sheet of facts, nothing too bad as I am terrified of him, I also have the interdict detailing abuse with my DC and me but one part of it is wrong, it says The School reported to SS.

He called DC phone today to ask if I had received Lawyers letter. I have not. He laughed and said "no-one believes you, why would you take me back if the abuse was so bad" sad I don't know?? Because I am stupid stupid woman?

I think he is going for custody of my DC, I am very worried and anxious and upset. After he abused me and raped me and ran me over he would write a letter/card of apology, I kept all letters. They detail his drug abuse, they detail how sorry he for running me over, and will never hurt me again.

Does he have any kind of hope of taking my DC from me?

I am terrified to show these letters but will if it means losing my DC. I found out after he left he watched porn in from of my 10 yr old. My Dc told me this, he watched it "every time I left the house" I don't want my 10 yr old questionned but realise it may come to this.

I am receveing couselling (freedom programme) with Womens Aid, he is all the thing they have in their book.

I don't know what I am asking, I am just very very sad and tearful and scared I may lose my DC. Apparently his Lawyer believes him and I believe this as he Jeklye/Hyde and can be very very plausable but why would I phone the police?? He

I am scared. He has had no anger management counselling as believes he has no problems.

SW think he is beating her but cannot prove anything she will not say a bad word against him, I have been there but would never choose my DC over him ~ she has.

I could say more but fear he may see this, he used to put a keylogger on my PC, I know he cannot do this as he is not here but I am still scared, does anyone have any advice, re-assurance, anything? sad

Thanks for reading I know it is long.

Sorry if I have typos but bit upset, screen a bit fuzzy!

[Limelight]

Bump.

I can't offer you any advice but I really hope someone will come along and help you. Stay strong.

[VVVVVworried]

Thank you, I know it's horribly long but couldn't see any info to take out and have even missed some info out. It would possibly be pages and pages if I were to detail the last 2 years of hell.

[Happylander]

Hiya I answered on the one in lone parents. he does not stand a chance x

[VVVVVworried]

Thank you