Hi,
Need some advice.
I am going to start by saying I am in the wrong but would appreciate views on both sides.
Bascially I had been with my husband for 12 years (married for 6) there have been incidents of violence in the past (3 to be precise - I will point out that he never actually hit me just pinned me up against things or raised his hand) anyway I stupidly had a brief fling with someone i work with - I am not proud and do regret that and am ashamed for doing it in the first place - I did tell my husband that I wanted to seperate very shortly after this started as I couldnt deal with the guilt (at this point I didnt tell him about the fling just that I wasnt happy in our marriage)
As expected he found out about it and was naturally hurt and hated me (something i totally accept he would feel)
I have since moved out with our daughter and walked away from everything - I have had to buy everything again from scratch as he wouldnt let me take anything from the house, he has now started divorce proceeding (again something i expected) but he is now saying i am entilited to nothing. We have a house in joint names, a holidays that was booked worth £3500 (i have asked to buy his ticket or him to buy mine but he says he would rather cancel it and lose everything) contents etc - he has moved everything that belongs to me out of the house and passed it to a relative, he refuses to let me back in the house - the police are involved due to the violence and I have been advised not to be alone with him.
I am waiting for the divorce petition to come through but am not sure wether to walk away from everything and start again or to fight for what I think should be mine (50% of what we have bought together as such)
Like say - i know what i did was wrong yet he was wrong for the violence also (all alcohol related apart from the 3rd time in which he was fully sober and this was also witnessed by our daughter who is only 7)
Can anyone offer advice or do I deserve all I get?
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Elephant25 · 03/08/2012 09:12
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