Husband and I separated in March, he moved out and is renting. It is staying very civilised and we agreed lots of things early on. We have a spreadsheet going (which I keep updated) which sets out monthly contributions on both parts, and have developed a 'Memorandum of Understanding' which sets out arrangements. We are lucky in that we are both in good jobs, and the children are older - 18 & 16 - so they can make their own minds up on who they want to spend time with (they live with me).
We're going to do a Do It Yourself divorce and I have downloaded the paperwork from the Directgov web site and it seems quite straightforward.
My question relates to our Memorandum of Understanding - it's in effect a Voluntary Agreement. We've worked out pensions (he's not having mine, it's a rare final salary one), the house (will have to go on the market but we'll split proceeds 50/50), cars, access to kids and dog, maintenance (50/50 on the house and a share towards running costs that impact children), and what'll happen when/if they go to uni.
Is there anything else we need to add, and how legal is it? I think that we're both honorable, and once the house is gone, there won't be much obligation on either part. He has a solicitor friend who says we also need to incorporate anything that might happen in the future - lottery winnings, parental inheritance, one of us loosing our jobs or getting a much better one.
If we add in the extra bits (and is there anything else to add to the list), could we just sign it and get it witnessed? Is it too much of a risk to leave it between the two of us? Should we have a Consent Order (I think that's what it is called)? We're trying to keep consultation with solicitors out of it as we don't want to complicate matters, or aggravate what is currently very amicable.
(It's a shame that we're getting on better now, both sets of parents do wonder why we're doing it, but I couldn't live with him any more, nor he with me, but that's another story...)
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Voluntary agreements - questions
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Caughtinmiddle · 21/07/2012 08:48
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