My divorce was all toddling along nicely...

[Llareggub]

...until today. I've had a major wobble.

We've been separated since January. He's an alcoholic and it all got untenable and I needed to protect the children. No regrets. I got myself a full-time job and have been managing well on my own. It has been fine.

I even entered into a relationship of sorts with an old friend from years back. We both got a bit spooked by the intensity and have mutually agreed to cool it. It's complicated.

I'm not sure if it has all finally hit me or whether it is the stress of sorting out childcare through the school hols but BLOODY hell I have found today hard. I burst into tears when my line manager suggested that perhaps it would be better if I worked from home on a Thursday to make it easier for me. I then burst into tears when I got home and couldn't find the car keys that were in my hand.

I feel knackered. Really, really knackered. The house is a tip. I have a massive ironing pile and i am constantly worried that this will be the month that my ex DH isn't able to give me money for the boys. I would love to move nearer by family but jobs there are scarce, and I feel guilty about moving them.

I am really taken aback by this wobble today, and feel really, really lonely. I've even forgotten to name change. Is this normal after 6 months?

[MyLittleMiracles]

Its natural to feel sad after a marriage breaks down, the divorce makes it all final, i cried a lot when i handed my petition all signed to my solicitor in march, i know its for the best, my ex was abusive and addicted to drink and a heavy cocaine user borderlining on addiction.

[Sighingagain]

I DONT IRON, ever!! Except work clothes.

[Happylander]

I'm knackered, my house is a tip and my ironing pile is huge huge huge! I live near my family and have plenty of support but there are still days when I am so stressed and knackered I just want to pull the duvet over my head and not get up. I think what you are feeling is normal and it takes a while to get into the swing of things...well that is what I tell myself and I am 9 months down the line from ex leaving. It's getting better..the ironing pile isn't though

Keep going and I am sure these moments will get less and less.

[Llareggub]

Thanks for your posts. Things are better today but I did burst into tears over lost keys. Thank god it's Friday.

[Spero]

Yes. It's normal. It's two steps forward, three steps back, one step sideways, you get the drift. I think it can take years to fully process something traumatic and a divorce is often that. I think it's very normal, but it should get better over time in that wobbles get less and less serious.