How do I get him to leave?

[BryterLayter]

I am married to a very controlling man. I finally decided after many years that I wanted a divorce. We live in a house which I love & desperately want to stay in for many reasons, but it will be expensive to do & part of my plan is to rent a spare room for some extra income. We have 3 kids, 2 still living here though older one moving to flatshare soon & youngest 14, wants to stay here too. STBX is refusing to pay towards mortgage - our credit rating is already trashed through his financial mismanagement. He wants house sold so he can get 'his share' of the equity. He refuses to move out but is also refusing to contribute financially. What can I do? Grateful for any advice...

[Bubbless]

when my mum and dad split up my mum 'bought' my dad out of our family house. she had it valued by an estate agent, then paid my dad half and he left.. the house was then transfered fully into my mums name
that way hes getting his half and you can keep the house?
it was a struggle for her to raise the money to buy him out though..

[ASillyPhaseIAmGoingThrough]

Sadly him trashing joint finances is not unusual or him refusing to leave his home if you decide to end the marriage.

Two choices, you pay everything and give him his share of equity or sell up and give him his share.

[Thetallestsunflower]

Hi there;
I am in the same position; spent the last 6 years living with and married to an emotionally abusive man, believing and hoping he will change. These last 6 months I have grown to realise I don't want this life anymore and have gradally got the strength to get him to leave.
Just this week actually, I told him it had come to the end of the line and he could either move out amicably while we try and work through our differences (I know we won't as men like this don't change) or I would get a solicitor involved to make him leave and would give them an account of all he has done to make mine and the kid's lives a misery over the last few years.
Shockingly, he has agreed to move out but is under the impression it is a 3 month period while we work on our marriage.
In my opinion it is far beyond repair and as soon as I get finances sorted I am going to file for divorce.
As far as I know if you have children and can afford the mortgage then your partner will have to be the one who leaves with the house being sold when the youngest child reaches 18 (or you paying him off).
Go to a solicitor and get a 30 min consultation session-I found this most helpful! xxxx