As part of his appalling behaviour towards me, he has flounced and asked for all the jewelry he bought be to be returned "as is custom" and "I am already late in doing so" (he walked out a few months back). Now I realise he is talking through his arse, but actually it did have me wondering whether personal gifts (engagement ring, wedding ring, necklace etc that are not worth more than - I have no idea, a few grand total, if that even second hand) - actually are something he could 'commandeer'.
The next thing he will play me for is maintenance for the children. He currently is unemployed, but about to start work again at the end of the month, if all things go well, and he intends to not pay me what he legally has to "as he has immediate debts" but will "try to help me". I am unsure whether just to see what happens, go the CSA, or a lawyer for a consent order as I currently am eligible for legal aid (I hope). Does anyone have experience of this? I was hoping to go down the child maintenance options route, but am feeling quite nervous about it. My understanding from CAB is that I am the highest priority for outgoings from his income, before debt, as the money is to feed and clothe his children.
And how do you deal with an angry, child-like man in a non-destructive grown up way [silent scream]. He only wants the rings back because he had to speak to the children by phone not skype, as we had guests over. It is seriously like dealing with an overgrown toddler (and I can't put him in time out.... can I?) [idea pops into head, eyebrow raised].
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STBXH asking for "all jewelry back" & child maintenance question ...
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daffydowndilly · 06/07/2012 20:59
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