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Divorce/separation

This is their story..

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velvetgloveoverironfist · 06/06/2012 17:57

Recently my brother's wife packed her things and left him with their son and daughter (small school-aged children). Although (like so many other things in life do) their life seemed like one most people would love to have;, being a young sexy couple with a spacious (humble) home, two amazing kids; who are surrounded by oodles of family and friends who fall over each other for time with them.

Some things apparently had changed for their Mom..After having mentioned on several occasions, that when the kids finally reach the age when they become pains in their sides-tween-teen years; they would ship them to her parents for longer periods of time, so she and my bro could have peace and time to themselves. She also used to say that, no matter what, the two of them would stay together. She is a domineering personality; one who speaks her mind and opinions openly w/o shame. During her introduction to the family, these traits were apparent right away. I recall while sharing and reminiscing over some childhood photos of both of the youngest men in the family with her(one was her husband); I couldn't help but notice she insisted, she could tell the difference between the two boys better than I-Although she was aware that I was there with them both then and now. Being considerably older than the two youngest in the family, I remember clearly who and when was! That experience with her left an impression on me, one that allowed me to understand that, she would be the one to determine how things would be in my brother's life from then on. It was then, when I decided that I would keep my involvement close enough, but yet with enough distance, to avoid any possible down falls between she and I; In order to avoid taking a chance of losing my relationship with my brother.

Less than 10 years into their marriage;upon a visit, I noticed the atmosphere within their home had changed and instinctively knew it was a permanent one. Shell shocked and awestruck, I learned that her plan was to relocate alone, to a distant location and begin a new life. Since my brother has undertaken the single parent life and seems to have adjusted well.

Soon the time will arrive to sign the divorce agreement; it's uncertain how that will transpire. This period of time, the one required by the state, before the agreement can lawfully be signed, has been gradually improving. Both sides of the kid's family have felt challenged about either discussing or asking either child about their circumstance, we're all learning to be at ease with their changes. Now, it is just a period of time to see what the final outcome will be concerning these little ones custody,I?m saying my prayers

-Velvet glove

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doggiemumma · 06/06/2012 18:04

Maybe she got sick of the overbearing inlaws

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Portofino · 06/06/2012 18:07
Grin
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bibbitybobbityhat · 06/06/2012 18:09

Do you really think its quite the thing to speculate publicly on your brother's relationship like this?

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OneHandFlapping · 06/06/2012 18:16

You don't know what went on your brother's marriage, he's hardly going to tell his family anything that puts him in a bad light, and it's none of your business anyway.

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LynetteScavo · 06/06/2012 18:20

Your turn of phrase is very strange. I think you've been reading too many trashy novels.

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ToothbrushThief · 06/06/2012 18:23

You are too involved and it does make me wonder if your brother is like you in which case I'd have upped and left him

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Haberdashery · 06/06/2012 21:01

I particularly like the spacious (humble) home.

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Sleepydog · 06/06/2012 21:11

I'm not quite sure what the point of the post is. Confused

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LynetteScavo · 06/06/2012 21:17

I'm trying to imagine a spacious (humble) home.

I'm coming up with a large NY loft, decorated minimalist style with Ikea furniture. Confused

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Haberdashery · 06/06/2012 21:43

My mental picture was entirely different. I had a sort of 80s new build, poss with slightly leaking roof but five bedrooms (hence spaciousness). For some reason, the whole house had peach Austrian blinds.

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QuintessentialShadows · 06/06/2012 21:47
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LynetteScavo · 06/06/2012 21:56

Grin




























"Shell shocked and awestruck, I learned that her plan was to relocate alone, to a distant location and begin a new life."

This is my favorite line

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LynetteScavo · 06/06/2012 21:56

I'm imagining her on the isle of mull with her new lover.

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KatieMiddleton · 06/06/2012 22:03

Aw lay off the op. She obviously just got the divorce/separation topic mixed up with Creative Writing. It's easily done I'm sure Wink

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ledkr · 06/06/2012 22:07

What is your point op?

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Haberdashery · 06/06/2012 22:08

The part I like least is the 'young sexy couple'. Ewwww. That's your brother and your sister in law you're talking about there! Although.... Where did you say you lived? It's not a farm, is it? With a lambing shed?

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MorrisZapp · 06/06/2012 22:10

How many bedrooms does it have?

I'll tell you if it's humble.

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Haberdashery · 06/06/2012 22:10

Yeah, 'awestruck' is a lot of fun.

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Beckamaw · 08/06/2012 14:20

6/10.
Some bloody confusing long sentences and misuse of punctuation.

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Penalty · 08/06/2012 14:25

Another one slightly mystified here. Pissing self laughing at the peach Austrian blinds though

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Xenia · 08/06/2012 14:43

Amercian as uses mom not mum or mummy.

Is the issue whether people ought to be more critical of women who leave children than men? That is always an interesting issue.

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LynetteScavo · 08/06/2012 16:22

I think the peach Austrian blinds is spot on. Navy carpets are also featuring.

6/10 is generous. I would expect a Y8 girl to read through and restructure the sentences.

I suspect the mother is a MNetter and was repeatedly told to "leave the bastard".

I wonder what velvet golve is praying for. For her DB to have custody?

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doggiemumma · 08/06/2012 17:27

for the scarlet woman to see the error of her ways, go home and bake cookies i would imagine.

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LynetteScavo · 08/06/2012 18:10

.........And so, after much heartache and soul searching, I was warmed to discover, on visiting my brother, his wife has returned , and their bodies have once again united as one, and the delightful sound of pattering feet will be filling their home once again next spring. Yes! The news that she has found her way home, and they are to have another baby brings me immense joy, my heart is singing, as I sit here typing, listening to a pair of doves cooing outside my living room window. God has truly answered our prayers!!...........

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