Dont know what to do!!!

[Sam1973]

3 weeks ago i finally got the courage to tell my husband i dont love him anymore. Because i felt guilty i said he didnt need to leave straight away but 3 weeks on he really isnt doing anything about moving out.

We havent told the kids yet because didnt want to confuse them, decided we would tell them when we had got things sorted.

Im just finding it very difficult him being around, part of the reason we split is because of his mood swings, and they are worse then ever now ( he isnt physical though-just mental torture) He keeps making me feel really guilty, like i dont already feel a bitch. I just couldnt deal with him anymore.

Just wanted to rant really...

[Sam1973]

Do i tell him he has a timescale to move out- or is that being a bitch?

[ladybrady22]

I would suggest that you try to come up with a timescale with him otherwise it could just run on indefinitely. Can one of you (ideally him if the kids are staying with you) afford to move out and rent somewhere else?

If he is anything like my STB ExH he will just keep on dragging his feet and never do anything proactive. Mine only started to take notice when I presented him with my mortgage offer from the bank and went to see a solicitor.

Do you think he's hoping you will change your mind?

[Gumby]

if he can't afford to move out you might need to sell the house and split the proceeds in two

you really need to see a solicitor

[Sam1973]

We rent the house we are in so selling isnt an option unfortuantely, and we only really have enough money to keep it going. certainly dont have enough to pay a deposit and months rent on somewhere else to start him. he is ex army though so i think the bristish legion are going to help him... eventually as he isnt really being proactive