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Phone contact is stressing out DS - what to do?

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petersham · 08/01/2012 12:56

I have posted about this before. It is only once a week but it is really blighting our weekend. DH was abusive towards both of us. My useless solicitor set this up before she left. I told her that I had major reservations about it but she insisted that it was the right thing to do.

New solicitor is more realistic. I now have through both EP report acknowledging DS' emotional turmoil and a great SS report which recommends against contact on every ground and also refers to fact that he mafe many "malicious" allegations about my parenting/ state of house which were unproven. I have a clean bill of health from welfare pov. SS mention the fact that they have seen a Police Report from 2006 (when I reported him from DV) and that DH has been violent in DS' presence several times when he was a baby. I just don't know where to go from here. I know I need a RO/PSO and we are finally talking about this (DH has set up home abroad, stole many of DS' toys to take back there incl presents which he didn't even buy, obtained non-UK passport for DS, obtained a school place) yet no protection has been offered to me in all these months.

We don't want contact. It is stopping our own recovery process and stopping us from getting on with our own lives. He effectivelyl left us/ refused to seek help/ turned everything on me and tried to destroy me in every way - extract money from my property/ make up malicious stories about me to SS/Ed Psych/School/ GP - I can't see this changing either as there is nothing to stop him. I am fed up of his antagonism.

Is phone contact usually allowed in the case of abusive, manipulative me who have been officially condemned? What can I do from this point onwards?

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BellaLEL · 16/01/2012 18:02

Have you been to court about this? Or was it your old solicitor that advised telephone contact?

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Xenia · 16/01/2012 18:33

Is the telephone contact unwanted by your child or unwanted by the child because the child knows you don't want it? Can't you leave the child to answer the p hone and you just leave the room and not get involved with the call at all.

If you were in the father's position I suspect you might want at least telephone contact.

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