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Now what? Just split with DH

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12345667 · 06/01/2012 19:52

I still call him DH as he is severely depressed and an alcoholic. We have split - he thinks temporarily - as I cannot expose our children to his illness. He is with his parents and I am at home.

We run a business together. I am part time, one DS at school, the other at home. The business is doing ok but there are debts and he is spiralling downwards. I am not a director, thank god.

He is continuing to work, pay all the bills etc but I am looking for a job, and fast. What should I do? I asked him to leave on Tuesday.

I have £80 to my name - he has said he will give me what I need. I have applied for tax credits (this I did before we split) so that will help. His parents have given me money too and they are very supportive and obviously very worried for him.

Obviously, once I get a job I will be able to worry less about him sending the business downwards but I won't be able to help him as much, but I am not sure I should anyway. This is a nightmare.

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Brevity · 06/01/2012 22:07

Hello,
Am not sure what to suggest, but will bump this for others to see.

Do you think the business is likely to fail? Can his family help him to keep it going?

I think you need to get some legal advice. It is good he is saying he will support you financially, but I would imagine he is not going to be reliable.

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12345667 · 08/01/2012 10:04

Thank you for your post. I have name changed for this btw, I am definitely a regular but so many people know me in RL here I must protect my identity.

His family are helping him with the business and so will I, at least in the short term. I do so want him to get better. My good friend is a laywer and whilst I know it is not the same, she has given me some good advice to get on with. At some point I shall have to bite the bullet I think.

What I have realised is that I have a wonderful support network here, so I have decided not to pack up and move back to my home city. So that is something.

I really need a job. It has been a year since I worked in my career but I am former public sector so it isn't that easy to get back in. But I am calling as many contacts as possible.

I am a bit up and down but trying to stay positive.