For some time I have struggled with a DP who drinks and is verbally abusive. He can be nice and charming, I guess that's why it's gone on with me being the eternal optimist it was going to be different this time. LAst week was a classic when he didn't come home fir the whole weekend.
I was on the verge of packing our bags and inviting myself and two DCs to my parents fir Xmas. They're about 500 miles away so it wasn't the ideal solution, but I figured it would be better than spending Xmas with one parent in a drunken state. Anyway, he promised a sober Xmas, so we stayed and it was.
However, he's now just in his roomabd kn wine bottle 2. I am so let down and angry, I just want him out. He has told me previously he won't go.
The advice I need help with is what is my legal position? We're not married, and we bought the house together. I don't feel that emotionally attached to the house, but I am loath to move out with two kids- it doesn't seem either fair or sensible. I would have to try and rent somewhere with three beds which would cost me a fortune.
Has anyone got experience or expertise? I am truly at the end of my tether, been living like this fir more than 8 years now, and despite protests of change, AA, etc, it always comes back. I can't rely on him at all and I'm tireder and tireder keeping up a brave face. Things have got to change and it looks like it's going to have to come from me. Thanks for your help.
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Squeegle · 26/12/2011 18:35
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