I'll try and keep this concise, because believe me I could ramble on for a week, theres so much going on. Any advice would be gratefully received!!
I split with my partner in Nov 2008 due to his abuse to me and my eldest two children. I have paid the mortgage for our jointly owned home since 2009, it had been allowed to go into arrears by my ex, and i've caught up. He has issued court proceedings with respect of the property. He wants it sold so that he can buy a new place with more space. The house is currently worth approx 10,000.00 less than we paid for it.
(I know the judge presiding over the case and he's a real pig. I'm sure he will love my ex!)
We have two children together, one of which has special needs.
He has remarried.
He only has fortnightly contact on a saturday due to the abuse (personally I feel even thats too much as he still abuses the children only now its mentally not physical), He is taking me to court to get it overnight. I'm fighting it, fighting, fighting.
I asked the council if we could be rehoused and they told me that only a two bed would be possible due to having two boys of 6 an 8. Problem is the boy with special needs cannot be in the same room as his brother. I do have support from IDS and other organisations who said that they would help me get a 3 bed, but it feels a bit insecure.
Private renting is not an option as I have dogs, and the rental market around here is expensive.
I was informed that I may be able to stay in the property until my youngest son reaches 18. But he would then claim half of any equity.
He has told me that the mortgage I pay is in leiu (spelling?) of rent. News to me.
Has anyone else faced a similar situation? What course did events take? Can anyone advise me how to proceed, and what I should expect?
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mumandthree3 · 26/11/2011 13:01
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