single again!!!

[goddess72]

Well I got crucified on my last thread, because I was with someone who basically didn't like being around my children and didn't particularly want anything to do with them. Anyway I did the right thing by my children and threw him out, I feel alot better in some ways, relieved, a weight lifted off my shoulders etc, I know I've done the the right thing and I won't go back, but I feel such a failure, why didn't I spot this before I moved in with him, why do I get the men that are wrong for me, everyone else seems happy around me. I've not actually told anyone about my split apart from 1 close friend because I can't bring myself to hear them slagging me off in some way, they will all think its my fault, well it is I suppose but I don't want to be told that I suppose.

I'm hoping for support this time though off other single ladies that has bad taste in men like me! :-/

[exoticfruits]

Well done for getting rid of him. It isn't easy, I'm not single now, but I have been in your position. There are nice men out there, but you will meet a lot of unsuitable ones. Don't put the blame on yourself-you met the wrong person for your DCs-that is all.It isn't easy to spot at first, they often don't show their true colours at the start when they are trying to impress.
Just see it as a positive learning experience and go out and meet people. Take things slowly.
You are not a failure-you stopped your DCs from having a hellish childhood-that is a success. Good luck-you deserve it.

[Pepsiginn]

Can I just say, everyone seems so happy around you... Try not to think that as I am a product of one of those "happy" relationships. But what it is is happy but not behind closed doors. Every relationship has troubles and some work and some (like mine) don't. Try not to beat yourself up an trust in the decision that you've made. If you felt it wasn't right - it wasn't. X

[landphil]

Well done on doing the right thing.
It's often not easy