DS is 8. Yesterday at school, some little altercation in the playground resulted in one little darling saying to ds "Well, at least my Mum isn't spazzy".

To DS's credit, he went to tell 'Miss', deciding not to hit the other boy.

But he needs a suitable response.

Anyone?

A punch in the face?

Sorry, just noticed decided not to hit. (Are you spazzy?!)

I think telling the teacher was the right response really. It sounds like he did well.
Clever boy.

'Are you sure about that?'

Would seem to be a suitable response...

She isn't bring you up with any manners though is she?

Hully, I'm disabled. I had thought spazzy had died a death, it's what yobs called me when I was at school.

how about: 'at least my mom has taught me some manners you horrible twit...'

Wonderstuff's suggestion is good too.

How about, "My mum may be disabled but at least she's bringing me up with manners." But that may not cut it with 8 year olds...

LOL multiple cross posts!

Sadly, Clumsymum, it's pretty common.

My two DSDs use 'Spaz' and 'Retard' as put downs. They also use 'Gay' as another putdown.

Clumsymum - Sorry, like you I thought that word had died out and it couldn't possibly be being used in that context. I'm afraid then that I'm going back to a punch in the face. A really hard one, just once, cuts it off at source and stops it happening again (I realise this is non-pc, but it is effective)

Or throw him with 'what has that got to do with anything'?
or
'you're not very bright are you?'

"Only idiots use the word "spazzy". I guess that makes you an idiot?"

Surely you must stop them youcannotbe!

We've already had stern words about 'gay' as an insult in our house and my two stopped using it sharpish. If they used 'spaz' or'retard' I would come down on them like a thunderstorm.

Oh sorry -- just seen DSD. So perhaps it's not in your control.

How about, 'stupdity is a disability... at least my mom's is only physical...'

I'm making a list, keep them coming....

We are just succeeding with getting ds to control his temper, and not lash out, so, sadly a punch in the gob isn't appropriate.

Absolutely, threadwormm... They don't use them here, or in conversations with us, but I've overheard them use those words when they are fighting with each other.

Yes, really sorry youcannot. I was much too trigger-happy there!

Sarcastic approach: 'wow - that's original! Got anymore names you want to call my mom so we can get it out of the way now?'

"Yeah and her wheels are still better than your mums"

"Spazzy? - Last time I heard that, I fell out of my cot laughing!"

"Spazzy? - Do your kind of people still say that?"

"Oh, I heard half of year 5 say that about you!"

"Even in her wheel chair, she's still better at football than you, rubber legs!"

"True but my Mum makes beautiful babies!"

Oh, I like Ilovemydogs!!

'And, your point is'

'God, you are so childish'

'I bet you don't even know what that means!''

Well done to your ds in not hitting out. Probably best to get the teacher to sort it out though, imho.

If anyone said s'thing to my ds about his dad I would want school to deal with it pronto and take it as severely as if s'one was being racist.

How about "At least mine knows who my Dad is"

Children need to learn how horrible those sorts of comments are before they get older. PErhaps made to explain their point in front of the class.

I think your son did the right thing telling the teacher. I hope that the boy gets a one day exclusion. Certainly the teacher should bring in the parents.

Or your son could say "I am proud of my mum."