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Mumsnet Discussions: Disabled parents : DLA & INCAPACITY BENEFIT .... Do You Get Paid Them as a 'Joint Payment'???? (25 messages)
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Contact the poster See this person's profile Contact mumsnet about this post By MissesF on Mon 10-Sep-07 10:10:44
I was late returning my renewal forms for my DLA- so as expected they stopped my money.

However... apparently they also have 'temporarily' stopped my Incapacity Benefit...to enable them to set it up as a separate payment again.

their attitude is...i'm still getting IB... but it may take a few days to sort out.

meanwhile i am close to having direct debits refused at my bank- and therefore getting charges of £30 a hit.

i know i ballsed up by not getting my DLA form back on time...

but if i'd realised it would have caused me this problem with my IB i would have been able to plan for NO MONEY...rather than expecting some.
Contact the poster See this person's profile Contact mumsnet about this post By MellowMa on Mon 10-Sep-07 10:12:34
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Contact the poster See this person's profile Contact mumsnet about this post By MissesF on Mon 10-Sep-07 10:13:56
I have OCD
Contact the poster See this person's profile Contact mumsnet about this post By MissesF on Mon 10-Sep-07 10:14:40
thats good advice!
Contact the poster See this person's profile Contact mumsnet about this post By LadyVictoriaOfCake on Mon 10-Sep-07 10:15:03
phone your bank and speak to them about the situation, they may be able to arrabnge a temporary overdraft or something.

you can also try and get a crisis loan til lthis is sorted out.

have you returned your DLA forms now (you did used to be mrsF didnt you?)
Contact the poster See this person's profile Contact mumsnet about this post By MellowMa on Mon 10-Sep-07 10:15:05
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Contact the poster See this person's profile Contact mumsnet about this post By Nemo2007 on Mon 10-Sep-07 10:16:00
agree contact bank.I wouldnt have expected both to stop either
Contact the poster See this person's profile Contact mumsnet about this post By Nemo2007 on Mon 10-Sep-07 10:18:17
Was there a thing a couple of years ago about IB only being given if DLA was awarded?
Contact the poster See this person's profile Contact mumsnet about this post By LadyVictoriaOfCake on Mon 10-Sep-07 10:18:36
mellowma 08457123456 for a claim pack. the forms are massive. you need to fil lthem in in great details, very negative forms, and get a health professional to sign it as well.
Contact the poster See this person's profile Contact mumsnet about this post By MissesF on Mon 10-Sep-07 10:22:09
yes...i'm mrsf!
(i've worked out who you are now...you mentioned peter on another reply you wrote to me!)

MellowMa-DLA can be awarded on mental health grounds...i only realised i 'may' get it when a few years back i was applying for DLA for my autistic son- and i came across the list of stuff relavent to adults with mental health- and how it affects your life- and how DLA is to 'improve quality of life'...and at that point i did not have an official label as such...just anxiety/depression. However, i was and still am, seeing a psychiatrist twice a year and have a weekly visit at home from a 'mental health worker'- and have been taking antidepressants now for 10 years.

(so you have OCD too?)
Contact the poster See this person's profile Contact mumsnet about this post By onlyjoking on Mon 10-Sep-07 10:23:34
no you can get IB even if you don't get DLA.
i got IB &DLA when i had my back op's , i don't get DLA now but i do get IB still
Contact the poster See this person's profile Contact mumsnet about this post By MellowMa on Mon 10-Sep-07 10:24:11
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Contact the poster See this person's profile Contact mumsnet about this post By MissesF on Mon 10-Sep-07 10:26:09
nemo...apparently not- as that was my first panic!

I had incapacity benefit 1st - then a year later started getting DLA

its just finished me off this- my OCD has got worse whilst i was filling out the DLA forms (we all know what dla forms are like)- for example i have cut 4" off my hair (one of my OCD problems) so i feel miserable. And whilst filling the forms in my irritable bowel was a nightmare. thankfully that is calmer now!
Contact the poster See this person's profile Contact mumsnet about this post By MissesF on Mon 10-Sep-07 10:31:09
Try looking at this for DLA MENTAL HEALTH GROUNDS- page 6 has a 2 minute test to help you see if it applies
Contact the poster See this person's profile Contact mumsnet about this post By Nemo2007 on Mon 10-Sep-07 11:09:11
mellowma I get DLA on grounds of mental health. I had a fab cpn who sorted it all out for me as I had been out of work 6mths and she sorted out IB then did the DLA forms.
Contact the poster See this person's profile Contact mumsnet about this post By MellowMa on Mon 10-Sep-07 12:27:45
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Contact the poster See this person's profile Contact mumsnet about this post By MissesF on Mon 10-Sep-07 12:33:26
i'd be so happy if you got it after reading my thread!
the forms are a pain- but for me to have how i feel in some way validated has made a huge difference.
i cannot work- have managed in the past - but now having 3 boys- cannot deal with my OCD and the boys and work. so getting DLA helps me have a life.
Contact the poster See this person's profile Contact mumsnet about this post By MellowMa on Mon 10-Sep-07 12:39:55
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Contact the poster See this person's profile Contact mumsnet about this post By MellowMa on Tue 11-Sep-07 13:28:57
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Contact the poster See this person's profile Contact mumsnet about this post By MellowMa on Tue 11-Sep-07 17:09:29
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Contact the poster See this person's profile Contact mumsnet about this post By LadyVictoriaOfCake on Tue 11-Sep-07 17:11:15
its in addition to IB mellowma.


peter gets IB, DLA high rate care and highj rate mobility (we use the mobility for pay for our car)
Contact the poster See this person's profile Contact mumsnet about this post By Nemo2007 on Tue 11-Sep-07 19:50:35
yes mellowma as misdee said you get it aswell as IB.
Contact the poster See this person's profile Contact mumsnet about this post By MellowMa on Wed 12-Sep-07 08:04:22
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Contact the poster Contact mumsnet about this post By givemewine on Thu 08-Nov-07 22:33:44
Hows it going mellowma?

Just got my DLA claim pack today, what a nightmare, seems really hard to fill in about any condition that's not as cut and dried as they want it to be. aaaagh. Have also applied for IB, on my doctors advice.
I have non cystic fibrosis bronchiectasis, bit of a mouthful but means my life's crap at the mo.
Any more exp of IB/DLA?


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