Hi, I don't want digs and unreasonable comments just how you would fell based on the information you are about to read and I would love to here story's that are the same or almost the same, with the out come!
I have 2 DC and I am married been married for over 6 years to my partner that I've been with for the 7 and a half years, My first DC is not my DH biological child but is very much his child, and love each other to bits, Now that is now!
Right, I met my 1st DC biological father at college, he had just started and I was in my second year (he was 16 and I was 17). He was the" bad boy" and I fell for, we were both so very young and both had problems, I had problems with my parents and so on, where as he had problem with being in a bad circle of friends (drinking, drugs, police, violence (which I felt personally scared for my self) and so on). I had my own place this was the only way I could see a way of still staying friendly with my parents and it worked. We had only been together 5 months and he cheated on me and we tried to work though it and I need to get my hand round the fact I was chatted on and need a little space so I went on holiday with my parents. I told him that when I got back we could make a fresh start. While I was away I felt lonely without him I was so very willing to give us another go when I got home. But when I got home things had happened, my gran was house sitting for my parents and he I got into trouble with his parents so ended up staying with my gran at my parents house while I was away, but he during this time stole money out the bill pot (£250) and kicked my gran to get away when she caught him red handed, so when I got back I ended things with him there and then. He was out of my life but 2 weeks later I found out I was PG with his child, still to this day I haven't told him, based on how I come to love and hate him during our relationship, and the fact that he shared with me that he got a girl PG and her parents moved her far away to get away from him, but he said that if he ever found the child he would kidnap it and he and the child would never be seen again, I know this could be seen as "just sounding off" but it worried me when I feel PG myself tho. Now that was then!
I know that one day I'm going to have to tell my DC the truth, but can I wait or do you think now is the right time or soon! We have a very happy family unit and both my DC are very happy DH loves them both as tho they were both his, I see my DC biological father's sister most days as I think she works somewhere near us, so I do have an opportunity to get in touch now but this has only come about in the last 6 month before this time he changed, phone number's, address and so on, but now I can get in touch I have this choice to make..........................
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What would you do/say if I knocked on your door and said this is your 8 year old child ?????
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sexylegs11 · 27/04/2007 16:26
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