Recently separated

[Rugbyboy1978]

Hi there
I've recently separated from my wife of nearly 10 years. We have 2 children. They are currently living in our marital home whilst I'm staying at a friends temporarily.
I feel I need some impartial opinions - mums welcome too! It was totally her decision - she's not given much reason other than she's not happy any more.
Sorry, this is going to be a bit of a potted history but I want to give full picture. We've gone through a lot together over the past few years. We ran a family business together, then she left because she fell out with her parents (whose business it was) and got another job. I ran it myself for a year or so before we jointly made the decision to sell it so that we could both move on. After that, I did not work for 8 months and was a stay at home Dad so she could continue on her career (another joint decision). She then landed an amazing job which paid really well. I decided to start again in my career and am retraining to be a teacher, which would work out really well because of holidays etc. I started training last September and it's only a year course so it's quite intense. Since January this year things haven't been great and we've had a few "chats" and I found out that she had been sending really flirtatious emails to another man. We reconciled after that for a few months, but then in April she decided to call it a day again saying she couldn't put a finger on what was wrong.
Since then, I have found out that she had been texting another (different) man a lot i.e. 30 odd times some days and also at times when I was not around (no idea what was in the texts) but she denies it was anything more than "banter". But I'm still not convinced that there's no-one else in the picture.
Anyway, I now feel I have been massively dropped in the crap. I'm not in our house, and I potentially will be renting a place which is smaller, potentially grotty and for more money than we currently pay on our mortgage. She earns 3 times more than me as I'm starting again in my career. I'm not sure what my position is. I'm pretty sure if it was the other way around job-wise I would have to pay her maintenance, but not sure how it works the other way around. I don't want our daughters to have to move out of the home, but I'm not sure how I'll cope financially if we don't sell the house.
In addition, she's totally shut me off from talking to her about things. I'm still seeing our daughters regularly which is great, but she simply will not enter into any conversations other than purely practical ones.
I have rambled enough, but just wanted to know if anyone had any practical advice.

[HannerHet]

Hi no experience of this as such, but didn't want to leave your post unanswered. I think you will have to try again to speak to her, and if she refuses again tell her you will be going to a lawyer for advice. And follow up on it.
Realistically you may have to sell the house for this situation to improve

[MrStranger]

Hello.
I was you 4 years ago.
Being honest, you're in for a rough ride for 2 or 3 years, where every decision you make will be a blur, despite you thinking it is a right decision.
My advice to you is to try not to set any specific goals beyond finding some stability and seeing your children as much as you can.