Imagine yourself in this situation.
You and your partner agree to have a child (your idea). You split up shortly after she falls pregnant. You fail to keep your promises re help with various things, including financially. You lie to both your ex and your family, often contradicting yourself.
After two years of lying, avoiding maintenance payments, slagging your child's mother off to everyone you know and going up to 5 months at a time without even asking about your child, the mum advises you she will now cut off contact unless your behaviour changes.
You threaten legal action, but don't contact her for 2.5 years. You finally get found by the CSA, at which point you get in touch with your child's mother and demand to see your offspring, seeing as you now pay maintenance.
You send an email once a month, sometimes less, occasionally more, usually when the CSA take a payment, saying that you pay maintenance and therefore have a right to see your child.
The mother doesn't respond. Mainly because you don't show any interest in the kid, and never, ever ask how they are, what they are doing, anything at all.
What would you then do?
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MotherofBear · 29/08/2013 16:25
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