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Blokes - if your girlfriend started cooling off with you, how would you react?

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Mawashigeri · 25/11/2012 12:23

Basically i'm wondering if he's as into me as I am into him. I have suspicions that despite what he says, he doesn't see us going the distance.

I only want to be with him if he wants me. As much as I like him, I don't want to be clinging onto something one sided.

So I'll cool off a bit.

My question is, if your newish girlfriend started cooling off (cooler texts, not arranging as many dates, busying herself with other things etc) but you genuinely liked her - how would you react?

Alternatively, if you were not that bothered about her to start with, how would you react to her cooling off?

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quoteunquote · 25/11/2012 13:02

If you are wondering, could you sit down and have a conversation, so you both know what page you are on,

It would be a shame for some sort of misunderstanding, to ruin a relationship.

He may just want to take it slow, explain why you need reassurance, communication is the foundation to any relationship.

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GetAllTheThings · 26/11/2012 10:08

I think it depends on the individuals and the dynamic.

I'd say there'd certainly be a chance that when one side of the relationship cools off ( as the other is being aloof ) the aloof one may then start to put more energy into things.

There's a saying that men always realize how important their partner is.... usually about 5 minutes after they've split up.

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IAmSoFuckingRock · 26/11/2012 10:11

dont play games and throw subtle hints expecting to get any definite answers.

you need to talk to him. ask him where he is WRT the relationship and tell him where you are. if it's not the same place maybe you need to move on.

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IslandMoose · 27/11/2012 16:39

I'd think either (a) she's not really that into me, so I'd best get rid (for both our sakes) or (b) she's playing silly games, so I'd best get rid (for both our sakes).

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