Got myself a new girl we are both in our 40's (just) and I have 2 kids from a previous marriage. New girl wants a baby and I just don't feel up to it.
She seems to get really down about it, which is understandable, but I just can't seem to get myself over the hurdle of saying "Yes". I sometimes feel like I want to repsond positively when she is upset over it, but is that just emotional black mail?
My main reasons for holding out seem to be
a. feel too old/been there before
b. worried about division of time and don't want to marginalise my 2 kids - (7 & 9)
c.worried about money/time/etc
I do love her and think she would be a great mum, it's me who lacks the confidence to move forward. But I am not sure that it should be me feeling responsible for the fact that she didn't have kids earlier. Not sure what else to consider as there is no going back and if I wait for time to rule it out I coudl end up making her bitter; with or without me.
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Not2niteBrenda · 20/11/2012 17:36
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