Open Relationships.

[Namechangerererer]

I'm a single-dad and have decided after I tried Internet dating, a lot of the women I met didn't seen to like that my children are my priority, that I don't want a serious relationship until the children are older.

But I still want a sex life.

So, I tried a sex-dating site and I've met someone, she's in an open-relationship, can anyone see any potential problems?

[JennyPiccolo]

1. What if you end up liking her more than you think & get jealous?

2.will your kids be confused by it?

1. Is it a great example to be setting?
2. What if her partner gets jealous?
3. What if her partner doesn't know they're in an open relationship?
4. What if her partner is also shagging around and you all end up with the clap or worse?

7.what if she wants a threesome and you have to touch his willy?

I think adults can do as they please if they're not hurting anyone, btw. Am just giving you some food for thought.

It does seem much more complicated, which I assume is what you wanted to avid by having a purely sexual relationship.

[JennyPiccolo]

*avoid

[Namechangerererer]

Thanks.

1. I don't do jealousy.
   
2. They won't know about it.
   
3. To who?
   
4. Could happen.
   
5. I think he does, but I can't know for sure.
   
6. Always be safe?
   
7. Not going to happen.
   

The idea is to make my life less complicated.
So I'll probably play it by ear.

[JennyPiccolo]

Maybe chat to her a wee bit longer. You don't need to jump into things straight away.

[Witchety]

Good luck!

But the jealousy thing could be a big problem. Being nosy, which site was it? Also, is she completely honest?

[Namechangerererer]

I can only get jealous if I ask questions surely?

I'm not going to mention the site, and I believe what she says about herself, but I suppose she could be lying.

But then again the Internet dates I went on couldn't they have been less than truthful?

Hmmm things to think about

[GetAllTheThings]

She might be on the kinky side, pull a 15" strap-on out and eat you for diner?

< joke >

I think just use common sense. If it were me I think I'd want to meet her for a coffee first. And I'd err on the side of caution, there
may be sex on offer but she's a complete stranger remember. I'd certainly be wary about inviting her home on the first encounter.

I have a fwb and it works for me, but we were friends first.

I'd just be cautious and hopefully enjoy it. And obviously don't assume anything.

[Namechangerererer]

Still chatting, looks like we'll meet next week.

[GetAllTheThings]

Good luck don't forget to come and tell us all the sordid details

[UrbanDad]

There's a good Guardian article about open relationships which explores a few of these things from the side of the parties in those relationships. It's not my cup of tea, but then nor is chasing a little white ball around a big field with a big bag of sticks and I wouldn't judge people who choose to play golf. If it works for you, great, if not then at least you're taking an informed decision.

[chris481]

I was once told that an open relationship actually means her husband wants to secretly watch you at it, check the cupboards for peep-holes if at her place...

[lix75]

@Namechangerererer:

I'm curious, why do have to go to a sex-dating site when you can go to a regular one and say that you're looking for a casual relationship?