I wonder if someone could help........
I apologise if this all comes along a bit mis matched and in the wrong order, but i have had a few drinks, for myself, but also to try and chill myself out as i am struggling. Dont get me wrong, i am not a drinker, but i have been pushed so far by my girlfriends daughter that i needed to just go out and be out, and not at home pushing things through me head!
To put it simply, my girlfriends daughter is making our lives hell. She is extremely controlling. At 8 years old she sleeps in her mums bed. She refuses to try any changes and kicks off at any opportunity she can.
Now when i say controlling, i mean it! Her mum is not allowed in any shape or form to do what she wants. If i am there unanounced when she gets home from school, she is really crappy and openly asks her mum what the hell am i doing there :(
My girlfriend has 4 kids in total, the eldest isnt thrilled about us being together, but being 25 she just puts up and gets on with it. The next eldest is 19 and he is autistic. He has never accepted anyone in his life apart from his mum, except me. He didnt like his step dad (due to his autism cos his step dad wasnt an arse), but within 1 day out with me being there, decided he wanted to call me dad. Then there is the 10 year old. She is very close to her real dad, but still enjoys my company, isnt bitchy, comes and cuddles me whenever i arrive and makes me feel very welcome. Then last but not least is the 8 year old. She is a real problem. It isnt just me who notices it. Her mum is exceptionally passive towards her children. She instills discpline as a last resort and prefers to talk to her children which is fantastic. But in my view they havent learnt boundaries. Simple things like the 8 year old sleeping in her bed. It makes it difficult for me and her to hold down a proper relationship, as i cant do the normal things a couple should do (we are nearly a year together so its not a new thing).
I just dont know what to do. I want to move on with this lovely beautiful woman who after a number of very bad failed marriages is the one woman i feel i have properly fallen in love with. But this 1 child is making it very difficult :(
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Danbhardy · 01/09/2012 04:18
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