Trying to Conceive Success Stories thread- to give hope to those IN WAITING!!!!

[mummy2olivia]

I hope nobody minds me putting this here.

Every now and then a thread will pop up asking about others experiences of TTC/treatment/alternative therapy etc. and I thought we could have a little thread for people to post stories on. I find it really positive and hopeful and I thought it would be nice to hear lots of peoples experiences of TTC whether it be long/short/assisted or just plain hard work (I'm sure some of us can relate to that!!) And also we may be able to spot hints and tips and ideas to help us out. And I'm sure there are loads of women on mumsnet who have been through difficult times TTC and would love to share.

Hopefully we will get lots of great success stories to make us all feel very positive!

[tryingnottoobsess]

Still waiting for my success story, but just wanted to say I'd love some inspiration!

[Kayran]

Well hope you are all settled comfortably... I was first pregnant at 19; it was an ectopic, found in time and lost left tube but everything else was said to be working. Second pregnancy at 21 years. Second ectopic, not found in time, ruptured and lost ovary and tube. Also had scepticima and blood transfusion, was very, very ill. Told would not conceive naturally again. Age 25 severe abdominal pain meant admittance to hospital where adhesions were found to be strangulating the bowel, operation followed but told even infertility treatment would be a problem as so many adhesions. Age 27 decided to start IVF. Age 29 first attempt at IVF failed. Age 30 second IVF - positive and twins. Miscarriage at 6 weeks and second miscarriage at 9 weeks. Third IVF failed. Fourth IVF at 33 - twins. However pregnancy was hetri-ectopic. One baby outside the womb and one inside. Told no chance either baby would survive and prepared for a hysterectomy. AND this is where doom and gloom lifts - baby number two pulled through and fast forward a few months and we had a wonderful premature bundle of joy who is now five. Unfortunately next IVF ended in a cervical pregnancy and we lost that baby but our miracle is a joy that makes our hearts soar every day. We now foster and I have two little ones - the house rings with children's laughter (and tantrums) and it is the sweetest sound. NEVER EVER give up Hope, the human spirit is an amazing thing. Lots of babydust to you all.

[fin42]

I conceived my ds on my 2nd attempt at IUI at the age of 38yrs.
I think that when you're going through it, it's hard to find any positive stories, so I like to tell my story in the hope that it will reassure others who are in the same position as I was.
My very best wishes are with anybody who is ttc.

[mummy2olivia]

Bump

[lulu1414]

hopefully my story will give a bit of hope... I got pregnant very quickly once we decided to try. Unfortunately, that ended in a missed miscarriage at 13 weeks- baby died at 12 +4. We were devastated and life was very bleak for a while. Not helped by the fact that I didn't get AF for 6 months- I struggled to get help from my awful doctor (who when I went in exclaimed suprrise that I wasn't pregnant and said she was sure next time she saw me I would be pregnant!!). Eventually I was sent to a specialist who misdiagnosed me. I insisted on seeing another specialist and had to go private to do so. Finally in good hands I was put on clomid. 7 months of that failed. I was then told I would have to wait close to a year for a lap and dye and ovarian diathermy. I had since changed GPs and had a lovely and very understanding GP who wrote a strongly worded letter and managed to get me in for the lap and dye as she felt I was so distressed. A year after my missed miscarriage I had the operation where all was found to be OK and I simply had unexplained infertility. Strangely, around this time I started to turn a corner and generally felt better about things and felt more positive, My DH was strong and supportive throughout and we got through it all togehter- the most helpful thing he did was stay positive but also to tell me how strong I was, how well I was coping etc etc. On my birthday (March) I did a test for no real reason other than a very boozy lunch was planned in my honour. I got a very definite BFP! I was shocked as had no symptoms and hadn't really suspected. As it happens I was already 7 weeks by that point. I am now 27 weeks and we are very excited and thrilled to be expecting a little girl.

I went through phases of doing everything- cut out drinking, drank grapefruit juice etc etc etc. But in the end I just got on with life as normal. I did start acupuncture which I think was helpful for relaxation and also allowing me to feel I was doing something. But in the end I think it just goes to show that these things take time and happen when they happen. I'm terribly impatient and a worrier and looking back I wish I could have had faith that things would work out, but as many of you know when you are in the middle of it, it is very hard to stay calm and relaxed. A holiday away was a real turning point for me- gave me time to reflect and also feel strong again.

Good luck to everyone.

[mummy2olivia]

Lulu- I can really relate to that. We were TTC for a year and I worried like mad the whole time. TTC was always at the front of my mind and I constantly felt like a failure.

The month I fell pregnant, I knew I was going to. I was relaxed, unconcerned and just knew I would get a BFP that month. Unfortunately I had a MMC at 9 weeks but I am hopeful and positive it will happen again. I am trying hard to get on with life and am going on holiday in a few weeks.

Fingers crossed!!

[tryingnottoobsess]

Thanks for your lovely stories... I'm not in a very hopeful place right now, so it is great to hear that happy endings do happen.

[mslucy]

I'm 38 next week and 13 weeks pregnant with no 2. We TTC'd for 2 years - 5 months with IUI.

I had ds 3 years ago and wanted another one almost immediately. He took six months to conceive and because I was now a non smoker/virtual non drinker I assumed it would happen pretty quickly.

My body had other ideas.

I started having investigations last summer and they found nothing wrong - dh's swimmers not amazing but not terrible.

I began my hot dates with the turkey baster just after Xmas and conceived on attempt no5 - I was only supposed to get 4 but the consultant gave me another crack at the whip (not sure why, just think he felt sorry for me!)

Just before I had the last IUI, I got a lecture about how it probably wouldn't work, how I could go for IVF but that might not work either. I was incredibly depressed.

Then I conceived. I nearly died with shock.

I also think a major factor (possibly more significant than the treatment) has been a total lifestyle change.

Basically dh used to knock back the booze and I worked my arse off as a TV producer.

He quit the booze and I quit my job - I'm now doing some freelance work and teaching instead of working all hours in a high pressure job (no joke with a small child as well).

Yes I don't have as much cash as I used to, but I don't feel like I'm going to explode all the time.

I really don't think the treatments would have worked if I was still working the way I did last year.

I've also had hypnotherapy, which I used during the IUI treatments - during the first couple my body froze with stress and I don't think that helped me.

Good luck and don't despair.