Every day??!!!!??!!

[imaginarybluelines]

I am just embarking on this TTC business, and can see it's recommended to 'get busy,' so to speak, every day, or at least every other.
THIS IS CRAZILY NOT POSSIBLE!
Do I have the lowest libido on mumsnet? Am I just a lazy toad?
So - does anyone actually do it this often?
What's the most often you have managed in a month.
We have done it three times in 6 days (that's like a whole months quota all in one go!) and already it has become a joke. DH is (jokily) moaning that he is just being used! Does anyone manage to keep it more interesting than this?

[CaptainKarvol]

Naaaah! Every 2-3 days should be fine! And if you're feeling knackered, once you're sure you've ovulated (check your cervix / cervical mucus / temperatures) you can give it a break and get on with stressing about the 2ww and peeing on sticks

[pinkmook]

IBL - good god I'm glad its not just me! I keep looking at charts in the chart gallery of fertility friend and at the amounts some of em did it! Jaysus!

I am fed up by the 3rd shag

[Squack]

We would start arguing if we didn't have sex every other day.

As long as you have sex around O you should get pg. If not you could always try increasing it

[lostittoday]

I am probably managing it with my dh about 3 times a week.
Can,t get him going any other time he is feeling used.
He has it in his head I don,t want to do the deed because I love him, but because I just want his seed as he puts it.

[pinkmook]

lostit - my DH has said that exact same thing - and its very hard to play the excited sex bunny when all you want is to be pregnant and all the bonking you have done so far has been fruitless FTC is an extremely cruel situation isnt it?

I am trying to get used to the idea it will never happen but my stupid brain continues to be stupidly hopeful even when I have had cycles between 23-56 days and DH has a very poor sperm count. Wish I could switch off the hope then the low when AF arrives might not be so bad.

[beaniesteve]

this month we've done it on days 7, 9, 11, 12, 14 and 18 so far. This month it's not felt unspontaneous but really we should have tried on day 15 or 16 too. I ovulated day 14/15.

[LindsayS]

I know all about this one... I can't help but think that there's no point in having sex because it doesn't 'work' (i.e. get me pregnant).. So there you go, all spontenaity and affectionat sex has gone out of our relationship and it's become a chore like the ironing. I wish more than anything that I could be excited about it, but I only ever am if you catch me in that brief time between having had a few drinks and being in the mood, and actually being in bed and not being able to keep my eyes open.. There just isn't the time and energy to have sex, surely?????

Add on top of that the wonderful 'mood-swing enhancing' drug, Clomid, and I want to bloody tear his head off, rather then tear his clothes off!!

[WorzselMummage]

Df and i have been ttc#2 for 2 and a half years, i am bored bored bored of sex.

we ususally have sex evey day every other day during the first falf of my cycle, as much as poss over ov and then very little in the 10 days or so before my period.

sex isnt all that really, is it

[WorzselMummage]

Every other day at he beginnign even

even Df is fed up of it now.

i kinda wish he could dispense his sperm in the fridge on CD56 band i could use it over the month as and when required.

[glaskham]

we ahve sex a fair old bit.... around 4-5times a week... then every night over the period when i get EWCM.... but that doesn't feel too much for us... only the week before we decided to ttc we had sex 6 times within 72hrs!!! dont know how we do it still really!!!

but i'd say have sex your normal amount then the days you get EWCM.... then he'll only feel 'used' for a few days a month!!

[kirstymcc]

I make myself do every day around that time just to be sure!! Not so much the rest of the month ;-)

[terrier141]

Have tried every trick in the book to spice things up - but dh knows exactly what Im up to and I think he feels under pressure to perform - especially when he knows its ov time. I'll fight you lot for the title "lowest libido" - have never really been all that keen - unfortunately Im not gonna get my baby if I dont make a bit more of an effort!! Once I know ov definately over I completely give up!

[pinkmook]

LOL terrier It'll be a close fight coz I think I'd win DH feeling very under pressure as I have to have this horrible sounding scan done soon and am shit scared!

[BeckyBendyLegs]

Six times in 72 hours! Wow!!! Impressed.

Last time we were TTC DH and I decided to do it every day from the end of my period until two days before ovulation (apparently this helps tip the odds for a girl). After three nights I was just bored and tired (and having two boys already the only chance to do it was either before our dinner in the evening or after and if we did it before I'd get soooo hungry and if we did it after I'd be too tired!). We gave up after the third night and tried every other night instead. It's just too much like hard work! We did manage to concieve on the third month of trying and I think DH was quietly quite relieved... he didn't get any more love action for 3 months!

[pinkmook]

LOL BeckyBendyLegs - I think DH would be over the moon if I get Up duffed as he can have a rest then! I never managed 6 times in a week never mind in 24 hrs!

I think there two distinct camps here: Manyshagsbraggers and I'mlessshagadelicthanyou. I am in camp 2 def.

[Hulababy]

My fertility consultant recommends every 3 days for TTC; too often can cause problems, as can too infrequently.

[Caitni]

Oh this thread is too funny ! We were at the once or twice a week stage when we started ttc and upping the amount was initially a struggle (so hard to find the motivation when tired from working, commuting etc!) especially as quite honestly reading in bed next to my dh is one of my (admittedly v boring!) pleasures. But definitely enjoying it more now, though last month I felt like we had a year's sex in one month and no BFP. Am taking it easier this month, so we both don't go mad lol

[sorkycake]

I honestly believe the less sex you have the less you will want it.

Conversely, the more sex you have the more you will want it.

Well, that's the case for me

[BeckyBendyLegs]

Camp 2 definitely. At the moment give me a glass of wine and an episode of Brothers and Sisters over a night of shagging anyday (sorry DH - its not you, its me!). Oh my god do I really believe that? If you'd asked me ten years ago the answer would have been so different!

[Caitni]

Sorkycake I agree - I've wanted it more the more we've been having it and I think Dh is the same...though a glass of wine and Brothers & Sisters is v appealling lol (am glad my dh doesn't read this!)

[BeckyBendyLegs]

My DH is in IT. I wouldn't be surprised if he secretly read my threads. I hope not!! Sorry DH if you are reading this, I love you really .

[BeckyBendyLegs]

Actually I could imagine him reading this and thinking 'what's a DH?' So I think I am safe.

[Caitni]

BBL My's also in IT and in fact told me today that he opened the laptop to find it open on MN and purposefully decided to look away, as he realises I need a "space" in his words, bless him, to get my ttc thoughts out of my head (bet he's secretly glad that now I've discovered MN he's not the only recipient of my ttc ramblings )

[Caitni]

BBL that actually made me laugh out loud as mine would be so the same! Would probably be most interested in the source code or some such...