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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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Sad - I just got my period

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abbevillemum · 20/09/2007 15:58

I had a miscarriage a few months ago and my DH and I were really gutted. Both of us thought that we would get pregnant quickly again, particularly as we were told people were more fertile post miscarriage. Now I just discovered my 3rd period following the miscarriage, even though we had loads and loads of sex and at the right time. I've got a little girl, so I know I should count my blessings. But instead I'm just gutted.

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fawkeoff · 20/09/2007 16:00

awww hun i would just like to let you know that it took 5 months for me to concieve again after my first 2 miscarriages....then 8 months after my 3rd so please dont worry hun

fawkeoff · 20/09/2007 16:01

i do have 2 beautiful devils now

belgo · 20/09/2007 16:01

abbeville - I'm in a similar position. I have two dds alreday, but really want a third.

I miscarried two months ago, and am still not pregnant. Every month I convince myself I am pregnant, and then very upset when I'm not.

It's hard isn't it?

abbevillemum · 20/09/2007 16:03

So hard! I really thought I was pregnant this morning. I just keep on wondering if that's my lot and she'll be an only child...

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belgo · 20/09/2007 16:06

I really manage to imagine pregnancy symptoms - I suppose we just have to keep on hoping and taking comfort in our children.

fawkeoff · 20/09/2007 16:06

i remember that horrible sinking feeling and teary choke in my throat everytime af came and i was just horrible to live with.If iwasn't on my period i was a mad cow constantly wanting sex then hysterical thining i was infertile.....you willbe fine hun, chin up x

abbevillemum · 20/09/2007 16:09

What worries me is that somehow the fact that I want it so much will make it not happen. People always say just relax but I can't. what if that stops it?

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belgo · 20/09/2007 16:10

I was also wondering if getting stressed out about it prevents it happening somehow. But it is very hard not to get stressed out.

fawkeoff · 20/09/2007 16:13

i never stopped stressing about it, it was a constant factor in my everyday life, i tried to forget about it then some bloody preggers woman would waddle towards me then my mind would go in overdrive....i had dd after 2 miscarriages, had a 3rd then had ds.i will not be having anymore though

fawkeoff · 20/09/2007 16:14

sorry if your not interested i just wanted to tell you my situation as it might give you a silver lining x

belgo · 20/09/2007 16:16

thanks fawkeoff.

abbevillemum · 20/09/2007 16:20

My sister is due in November.
My best mate is due on the same day as I was due.
There just doesn't seem to be anyone I can talk to as a result.

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nh101 · 20/09/2007 16:20

Chin up, Abbevillemum - why not come and join us on the ttc after MC thread, there are always some kind words from others in the same situation.

It is six months since my MC and still not PG (although hopeful for this month).

Have you tried acupuncture/reflexology? What is your diet like? Are you sure you don't stop BDing too soon (some people don't OV bang on day 14)?

I am sure things will work out for you and, yes, relaxing is a big part of it. I am sure your little one will have a sibling soon.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/1366/389539?stamp=070920161749

nh101 · 20/09/2007 16:22

My SIL got PG practically the day of my MC (told us about it four weeks later). It was very hard. She is due in Dec. But my other SIL has been trying for nearly 3 years and has never even been PG. There are always others far worse off (though it doesn't always make you feel better)

belgo · 20/09/2007 16:28

nh101 - I do seem to ovulate later or earlier then I think.

belgo · 20/09/2007 16:33

nh101 - it must be hard losing your first pregnancy. I'm very fortunate to have two dds.

Wishing you luck this month - I will be looking out for you.

nh101 · 20/09/2007 16:39

Thanks Belgo - have you tried temping? It is not for everyone but it has been a godsend to me this month.

belgo · 20/09/2007 16:43

the thing is I don't really understand how temping would work.

If it takes much longer though I will look into it.

fawkeoff · 20/09/2007 16:55

the day i had my 1st miscarriage my brothers gf was in the hospital witha suspected miscarriage,i had to have a d&c and she was fine.my brother came to see me when i came out of the op and i couldn't even look ay him.i was soangry that she had kept her baby and i had to lose mine.when i was in on my second miscarriage she had just given birth to my nephew and my family wouldn't let me visit him.i was extremely hurt by their actions even though i knew they where looking after me

belgo · 20/09/2007 16:56

that must have been very tough fawkeoff.

fawkeoff · 20/09/2007 17:09

yeah it was shite......anyway my point is iknow its really hard at the moment for you to think positive but im sure things will be fine x x x

nh101 · 20/09/2007 17:54

Fawkeoff that is awful! I find it OK as long as I am in control of the situation re other people's babies. If I am just around a load of people talking about babies or being PG I find it hard. But if I am asking the questions etc I feel fine. When my SIL got PG they kept it secret until 12 weeks (I blabbed to everyone straight away about my PG) and that annoyed me cos I was like "What's so special about your baby that you don't want anyone to know?" Even though I know that is totally irrational cos lots of people like to wait till 12 weeks.

It sounds ridiculous reading it back but at the time it really annoyed me! (I think it was just cos I thought 'you might have more important things to worry about soon if you lose it so stop being so f*cking precious!')

Belgo - temping is dead easy, you get a digital thermometer (£8 from accessdiagnostics), take your temp every morning and input it every day on fertilityfriend.com. The website tells you when you ovulate - it is amazing! (Although obviously it can only tell you after it has occured, but it is good esp if you have BD'd at the right time or to plan for next month.)

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nh101 · 20/09/2007 17:57

I think temping is a bit more difficult when you already have kids! (You don't tend to have the luxury of being able to lie in bed for two minutes before you get up taking your temp!

lulumama · 20/09/2007 17:58

fawkeoff · 20/09/2007 18:00

it's strange isn't it, i took people getting pregnant as a personal vendetta.when i was going through my last miscarriage i didnt even tell anyone i was pregnant,so i was on my own and had no support from friends or family, just dp...really felt stupid not telling anyone after,but it felt right at the time.i was so sick of ppl feeling sorry for me

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