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Long-term TTC'ers -Any success stories?

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GingerbreadBabyPlease · 26/07/2014 20:52

Hi everyone. I am just coming into my 15th cycle of trying for baby number 2 and I am just feeling so fed up and depressed by the whole thing, and terrified that it is never actually going to happen. If anyone has some lovely success stories of getting pregnant after trying for a while please share them here to brighten my day and give me some hope for the future! Thank you!

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Eebahgum · 26/07/2014 22:51

Not a success story I'm afraid but just wanted to say I'm in the same boat and it's shit. I hate the cycle of having sex because it's the right time rather than because I fancy it, hoping for a couple of weeks that it might've worked, getting phantom symptoms which are then blown out of the water when my period arrives, then a couple of weeks of disappointment knowing it hadn't worked again.

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m33r · 27/07/2014 08:56

Hi ginger. I know you know me from another thread but just in case anyone jumps on here because of the title... We were ttc for 20months. We had tried everything and some months were just absolute hell. Some of the times we 'had' to dtd were just awful ... Well awful to get going anyway. I am do lucky my DH managed every time.

He was desperate for a baby and it broke my heart seeing his face every month. That was the hardest part.

We went through all the tests (fortunately with fairly competent healthcare workers so no messing around).

On month 20 we had a laparoscopy, we had both been on vits for 6weeks ish (I'd been on folic acid the whole time of course), we used preseed, had reflexology, used opks and dtd every day around ovulation. I also gave up drinking. We got our BFP finally. I'm now only 6+2 so keeping everything crossed but it did FINALLY happen.

I remember hideous milestones like buying folic acid on 3for2 but thinking i'd never need them all as I'd been on pg vits soon - I bought folic acid loads more times. I did countless pg tests due to phantom symptoms. I cried so much. I avoided some relatives who I knew were desperate for us to be pg.

... But we got there! I should say, even though we did loads the month we did get pg there were other months when I did loads of things too. For me, it was either the lap or more likely just my time. Other than dtd, I'm not sure about the rest of it but it helped me feel in control.

I really hope this helps people as this forum kept me sane through it all.

Good luck! It can happen!

I am due on 20/3 which is the day after my lovely dad's bday.

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m33r · 27/07/2014 09:09

Hi ginger. I know you know me from another thread but just in case anyone jumps on here because of the title... We were ttc for 20months. We had tried everything and some months were just absolute hell. Some of the times we 'had' to dtd were just awful ... Well awful to get going anyway. I am do lucky my DH managed every time.

He was desperate for a baby and it broke my heart seeing his face every month. That was the hardest part.

We went through all the tests (fortunately with fairly competent healthcare workers so no messing around).

On month 20 we had a laparoscopy, we had both been on vits for 6weeks ish (I'd been on folic acid the whole time of course), we used preseed, had reflexology, used opks and dtd every day around ovulation. I also gave up drinking. We got our BFP finally. I'm now only 6+2 so keeping everything crossed but it did FINALLY happen.

I remember hideous milestones like buying folic acid on 3for2 but thinking i'd never need them all as I'd been on pg vits soon - I bought folic acid loads more times. I did countless pg tests due to phantom symptoms. I cried so much. I avoided some relatives who I knew were desperate for us to be pg.

... But we got there! I should say, even though we did loads the month we did get pg there were other months when I did loads of things too. For me, it was either the lap or more likely just my time. Other than dtd, I'm not sure about the rest of it but it helped me feel in control.

I really hope this helps people as this forum kept me sane through it all.

Good luck! It can happen!

I am due on 20/3 which is the day after my lovely dad's bday.

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BobsyBoo · 27/07/2014 14:01

Hi Gingerbread I'm just typing to say I'm in same position trying for 18 months for DC #2 and AF arriving every month is getting me down & making feel depressed & thinking its not going to happen.

Same as you too Eebahgum every month I find 'symptoms' I think I imagine them because I want them so much!

Good to hear a success story m33r and many congratulations Smile

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Missmidden · 28/07/2014 09:21

Yes, I have one! 10 months ago I could have written your post, Gingerbread. We tried for DC2 naturally for just over a year, had a load of investigations towards the end of that (nothing diagnosed), then a round of IVF last summer that resulted in a very early miscarriage, and then conceived naturally 6 weeks later! That resulted in gorgeous DD2 born 2 weeks ago.

My theory (very unscientific!) is that I need some sort of conception before I get one that will stick (had a chemical preg the month before conceiving DD1), and somehow the IVF achieved this. Shame it took so long and cost a few grand to get there but would gladly due it again for the eventual result. Good luck!

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GingerbreadBabyPlease · 29/07/2014 20:46

Hi m33r! thank you for sharing your story on here! I am so happy for you that you finally got your BFP! You have brought me some hope that maybe hopefully one day it will happen, maybe I just need to copy exactly what you did that month! It does help doing different 'things' each month that you feel might help, but then when it doesn't work it is heartbreaking as you just feel you are running out of options. I am always looking for the 'perfect' combination of factors that will guarantee a BFP and it can drive you mad doing all the research and reading up. Does anyone else get this or is it just me!?
Mismidden Congratulations on DD2 bet she is just gorgeous! How bizarre that after all that time it happened after your round of IVF. I like your theory too :) and if it resulted in 2 lovely little DDs then I bet it was all worth it.
Eebahgum and Bobsy it sucks but it is reassuring to hear of people in the same position, I have the same thoughts all the time too. Are you ttc number 2 aswell Eeb? It's all just crap isn't it, and the worst part that gets me is the worry that it might never happen. How long is this bloody emotional rollercoaster going to go on for, I don't want my life to be like this, but it's impossible to just shake it off. The past week has been a particularly difficult one, and I know I am driving DH mad with it all. I really hope we all get our BFPs one day soon, and have our own long term success stories to share, they will be some very precious and much loved babies that's for sure.

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Lindsay81 · 30/07/2014 13:02

Hi Ginger :)

I actually just started a really similar discussion on the pregnancy boards. I figure maybe there's a greater change of a newly pregnant lady who was long term TTC seeing it?

Anyway, just to let you know in case you fancy keeping an eye on it.

L xxx

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GingerbreadBabyPlease · 01/08/2014 21:03

Thanks Lindsay! I did wonder whether to post in there as well! Good idea, will head over and have a look.
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