Sex every 2 days, does anyone else find it really hard work?

(22 Posts)
nancy1984 Fri 07-Feb-14 23:32:26

I love my husband but all this sex for ttc is sooooo boring! It's such a chore, we are doing it because we have to not because we want to. ( we wouldn't normally do it this much). Is anyone else in the same boat?

bellaboo88 Sat 08-Feb-14 00:02:08

Me too!!! All the FUNs sucked out of it....poor dp, im gunna make a special effort this month, posh undies, edible treats, dress up night, 'no speaking night' (I.e can't ask/talk just go with the flow)

Any other ideas? X

Fallenangle Sat 08-Feb-14 00:10:51

Role play, different positions, blindfold, different music

nancy1984 Sat 08-Feb-14 19:47:49

Oh god it's a disaster! I just want to go to sleep xx

donna011286 Sat 08-Feb-14 20:57:49

hi i came of the pill dec 2013 and we started trying for our 4th child last month we had sex evry 2 t 3 days in the 7 day ovulation mark and i am pregnant already i was very shocked that it happened so quick keep going ladies its all worth it at the end ther say the more u force to have for a baby the less it happens i found that if u relax and dont think about it u will be pregnant befor you no it good luck ladies xxxx

basia2 Sun 09-Feb-14 19:41:29

While TTC #3, we had sex every day (just about) during the two weeks in the middle of my cycle.
It took us three months to conceive.
I found it VERY hard work. In fact, I came to dislike and dread it. So did my husband, and it was taking him longer and longer to finish.

Our unorthodox solution was this: my husband would masturbate in another room while looking at pornography on his computer, and then when he was close to ejaculating, he'd run into the bedroom and do it in me. In this way, we never ended up having to have intercourse for longer than a minute or so.

Of course once we conceived, we resumed our normal sexual relationship.

nichib83 Sun 09-Feb-14 19:52:53

I'm the same!! We have it quite a bit but not every 2 days!! I feel bad telling him that we 'have' to do it on certain days!! Lol Glad it's not just me!!! x

bonzo77 Sun 09-Feb-14 19:58:01

Yup. I know that feeling oh too too well! Trying now for the 3rd time. We are going for every second day from the end of my period to after my chart confirms ovulation, which is 3 days after ovulation. Anything extra is a bonus. Of my 3 previous pregnancies, the first was the result of being on honeymoon (did it loads but only for 10 days). The other two was every other day.

allchatnicknamesgone Mon 10-Feb-14 18:43:16

Porn. (I'll have a nap next to you and just stick it in when you're ready to fire). smile

MoreBeta Mon 10-Feb-14 18:47:58

Hang on. Why on earth are you doing it every 2 days?

That is not necessary at all. Are you doing that every 2 days all month long, every month. No wonder you are bored.

Aberchips Tue 11-Feb-14 10:24:25

I second what MoreBeta said - you need to go & get yourselves a copy of Taking Charge of Your Fertility by Toni Wechsler. You defo don't need to do it every day/ every 2 days! (unless you want to wink)

sebsmummy1 Tue 11-Feb-14 10:27:37

We have conceived twice doing it every day in the fertile window. There is no way I would want to be doing it every other day across the whole month. It would totally take any pleasure out if it.

akachan Tue 11-Feb-14 10:31:50

I did it every other day for a couple of months and then 3 times the whole month when we conceived. I did do it on the day of OV though I think.

moggle Tue 11-Feb-14 10:46:32

We're having ivf at the moment and it's so nice to have a two month break from all the sex! Still doing it occasionally but we are another couple where before TTC we only did it a few times a month. We never did it throughout the whole cycle though, usually just try to squeeze in 4 or 5 shags from day 10-17ish. Our problem isn't at his end so don't think doing it more often would've helped much.

nichib83 Tue 11-Feb-14 10:49:09

We did it every 2 days from about three days before my fertile window (sometimes I ovulate early) and about three days after ovulation just to make sure. It didn't work. And it took the enjoyment out of it! This month I am going to do what I did to conceive my three boys - have sex from cycle day 10 to cycle day 14. That's all I did and it worked. Weird as the two times I have tracked ovulation I ovulated later than that.....

MoreBeta Tue 11-Feb-14 14:30:36

We went the whole TTC and then IVF thing and it was grim.

My advice is get checked out after 2 years of trying but stop this 'every two days plan' or you will kill your relationship. Too much pressure.

It turned out DW had a very serious health issue which once sorted solved all our problems. We had given up 'trying' by then and had two children 'by accident'.

MrsBonkers Sun 02-Mar-14 01:56:25

So glad I found this thread.
TTC number 2 but most of the time we are too tired, bored or just cant be arsed. Wish I could convince him down the porn and stick it in me route!!!!!

sammyj85 Sun 02-Mar-14 11:11:33

Same here, we've been on holiday this week so it should have been fun and exciting but trying to do it every day gets tough. We got to the point where dh just couldn't finish and I would be quietly upset and trying to be supportive. Think next month I will initiate dtd more throughout the month so he feels more relaxed when ov comes around!

Nottalotta Sun 02-Mar-14 21:09:04

I don't know when i ov but have short cycles (25days). Plan this month is to dtd as much as poss between cd7 and 17. Thats only 10 days so eod would be 5 times. Can't see a problem with that! We have managed days 7,8 + 9 so far. Day 10 today.....off to bed soon!

RPopz Sun 02-Mar-14 22:10:05

Totally agree even though feel guilty even thinking it! Not sure hubby is that keen either if he's honest. Another reason ttc is driving me crazy!!

Your very best chance to get pregnant is 2 days prior to ovulation, this is scientifically proven.

So no need to bash the hell out of each other!

Inshock73 Mon 03-Mar-14 07:15:17

Totally with you Nancy! We're pretty active anyway but now it's become timetabled and a must do it's such a turn off! Partner struggles with the pressure to perform and I recently found out he's been taking viagra on the sly to make sure he can.....he's only 37!

Join the discussion

Join the discussion

Registering is free, easy, and means you can join in the discussion, get discounts, win prizes and lots more.

Register now