Old birds wanna join the coop???

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Gingerbreadlady1 Sun 26-Jan-14 12:23:56

Allo ladies! Wondering if there are any other over 35's (apparently the age of fertility suicide, who knew?) ttc for over a year wanting to chat? If so, pour yourself some virtual wine and let the chatting commence!

sizethree Tue 28-Jan-14 08:42:56

Hi gingerbreadlady1 I saw your post a few days back and noticed that noone has replied.
I mean this in the nicest way and with a nice soft tone, but I think your message was a bit clumsy so deterred other people replying.
Although I have utmost understanding and empathy for your year of TTC, I think your 'over 35's (apparently the age of fertility suicide, who knew?)' was perhaps a little too blunt for those people on these threads in that age bracket. It made my heart sink a bit as usually these threads are all about positivity!
I'm aware that this may read like a bit of a telling off, far from what I intended. Lots of wonderful women on these boards have been a great source of support and hope and hilarity for me over the months, and I'm just wanting you to have the same experience. Which maybe your initial approach didn't reach the audience in the way you intended.

Gingerbreadlady1 Tue 28-Jan-14 09:35:50

Hi there, yeah, I'm new to this, just joined a few days ago so figured I'd maybe got it wrong, oopsblush.nervously posted it as didn't want to offend but figured it would be good to chat with my own age group as well as others. I've tried to work out how to delete it but wasn't sure how so, never mind! It seems here to stay. Thanks for the heads up, been taken in the way it was intended. Any idea how to close/delete it would be appreciated!

Gingerbreadlady1 Tue 28-Jan-14 09:52:05

I'm mortified! Think this on line maybe not for mesad

Slh122 Tue 28-Jan-14 09:53:52

If you report the thread to MNHQ they might take it down for you smile just click 'report'

Gingerbreadlady1 Tue 28-Jan-14 09:55:31

Thanks, will do.

naty1 Tue 28-Jan-14 10:26:42

Wouldnt feel too bad about it.
Actual age is one thing we cant change so may as well accept it.
Sometimes your body is like a younger persons anyway. Stats are just averages
I actually think its important to recognise so if you want to help others avoid the same situation.
But also use the info to be proactive ie consider using opks or fertility monitor, think about visiting dr etc.
Have you had any investigations?

Gingerbreadlady1 Tue 28-Jan-14 10:57:42

Loads of investigations, drs been quite good really. pcos, first month on clomid.Tell you what it is, my friend & I were ttc together, she's a little older than me. We used to have a good laugh about it all, the irony of taking so long to find the right person to start a family with meaning it was so much more diff to get up the duff when you found them! She's now 8 months preg so I miss those chats. Cheers girls

naty1 Tue 28-Jan-14 11:09:50

Its almost more ironic when you had been with someone 9 years and just didnt get round to trying only to find its not so easy sad
At least you cant be annoyed at yourself for not trying sooner.
A couple we know got pg after 1 year tog 1st month after getting married so no trying at i think 33 2 years older than us at the time. When you see that you dont expect to havr problems.
I have pcos too.
I do wish i had spoken to drs about irreg periods years earlier. Just didnt think it was a prob as i had no symptoms of pcos.
Good luck with the clomid

Gingerbreadlady1 Tue 28-Jan-14 11:21:12

Thanks naty1, best of luck to you too. Maybe this will a lucky year!

sizethree Tue 28-Jan-14 12:43:39

I'm so sorry, I didn't mean to upset you. It was actually a bit brazen of me to reply. I was only speaking for myself and just wanting you to get off on the right foot.
Please don't let me being a bit over sensitive put you off these great boards in any way. Virtual smack myself across my chops. X

Gingerbreadlady1 Tue 28-Jan-14 13:27:35

Size3, your feedback was appreciated & obviously spot on as no one had replied, which, from what I can see ( albeit as a newby) is fairly unusual. I've got chatting to some really lovely ladies in other threads subsequently. They generally seem to be spring chicks (dangerously keeping the bird metaphor going) compared to me. I saw there was some older groups chatting but everyone seems to know each other very well so i didn't want to butt in. No slap to chops required! Not your chops anyhow but possibly mine!

happylass Tue 28-Jan-14 17:16:40

gingerbread there is a thread on here called Elderberry Pavlovas where everyone is over 30 (and many over 35) and we've all been trying for at least a year. We are a lovely bunch with a wealth of TTC experience between us. Feel free to stop by and say hello, you certainly won't be butting in! We have newbies joining us all the time and they soon feel right at home. Hope to see you there.

sizethree Tue 28-Jan-14 17:27:19

Hello ladies. ill introduce myself properly...I'm in the old bracket. 35 this year. Got married in May 2013 and foolishly spent so many years worrying about an unexpected pregnancy, that I presumed when I wanted to conceive it'd be easy.
Fell pregnant in August 2013, but had a missed miscarriage at 11.5 weeks. Absolutely gutting, but I'm back on the Ricky road in search of my next BFP.
I do love these boards as its much easier to rant to you lot and share exoeriences than talk to upduffed smuggo friends!
So hope it's all our turn this year. We've been waiting in line patiently!
Looking forward to my next ovulating days early next week but not another two week wait!

purplemurple1 Tue 28-Jan-14 19:00:46

Hi,

Can I join the coop - or is it being shut down?

I'm turing 35 this yr and ttc for #2, getting preg with #1 was a long winded affair and I ended up taking pravedel / brocomtine (sp?).

I've also looked at a few other ttc threads and everyone seems settled in and/or preg already.

Gingerbreadlady1 Wed 29-Jan-14 22:33:51

happylassthanks for that, will saunter over & say hi!

Welcome purplemurple and hi sizethree. Sorry for delay getting back to you, in London for work so been catching up with friends, been lovely! So sorry to hear of your m/c size3, that must have been so, so hard. I can't imagine. My friend who was going through the ttc minefield with me who is now up-duffed is the worst for insensitive comments such as you just need to get trying whilst smiling!!! She knows fine bloody well we're trying. I love her to death but swear, if she wasn't pregnant, i'd loose it! (Just kidding, kinda...hehe).

Purple, do you have a girl or boy, gads, second time on the ttc merry go round, you are made of strong stuff!

purplemurple1 Thu 30-Jan-14 15:56:00

Hi Sizethree sorry to hear about your MC it must have been really hard esp so far in.

I've a boy, we tried for over a yr we got so sick of hearing the stupid comments - oh you'd better get on with it /when are you having a kid you've been together so long now etc. It must be really annoying from someone that knows you are trying!

Tbh I can't beleive I'm back into this ttc lark and the dreaded 2WW (AF due next Sat).

I'm jelous of your trip to London, I use to live and work in Watford but now I live in the arse end of nowhere, which is nice but can be quite boring at times.

Gingerbreadlady1 Thu 30-Jan-14 19:15:12

Lol! I can relate, I also lived there for a bit & still miss it. ESP the fact that you're not considered some sort of misfit if you aren't married with 5 weans at 30 as you seem to be in Scotland.

I'm also in the awful 2ww phase, not sure when ill get AF as fist month on clomid & apparently it can lengthen your cycles. Currently 8dpo, fighting the frankly ridiculous urge to poas. This ttc business will drive the sanest most rationale woman to become a nutter!

purplemurple1 Mon 03-Feb-14 18:27:43

Yh it's weird you suddenly know every minute detail about your cycle but still constantly trying to guess if the twinge this month is something different!

I'm not even that sure I ovulated as I can't remember how long my tablets take to start working - but still got that poas urge.

Weirdly we have neighbors who were grandparents ny late 30's its weird as we drink with the 'adults' but it's their kids having babies this year. It's freaking me out a bit tbh.
I don't really know about Clomid - do you have yo play around with dose a few months before it works?

purplemurple1 Mon 03-Feb-14 18:28:25

Sorry about typos - phone + fat thumbs

Gingerbreadlady1 Mon 03-Feb-14 18:48:37

This is my first month, I've been out on the std 50mg, had bloods to check dosage correct but not got results yet. Seems to be working as ov at cd19, now 11/12 dpo no AF yet! Yipppeeee!

Had mild cramps & a little very light spotting for 2 days, fx it's IB. Will keep you posted (honest, not gonna cave & test tomorrow).

Have you had any tests? All tickety boo? X

purplemurple1 Mon 03-Feb-14 19:29:09

I had tests the first time after a yr of ttc and found slightly elevated prolactin so they have me pravidel and after 2 or 3 months I started ovulating and got preg first month.

I started back on them mid Dec (although I do need to get a new test and prescription sorted) so not sure if I ov this month as I forgot to test some days and I'm not sure if there was a faint positive one day.

Fingers crossed, it does sound promising for you I would have a caved already - you're doing well.

Gingerbreadlady1 Mon 03-Feb-14 20:59:22

Weeeelllll, I did a test on friday as was off to a wedding & wanted to check if I could drink, obviously bfn!

Fx with the ov', where are you now in cycle?

purplemurple1 Tue 04-Feb-14 17:30:46

I'm due AF on Sat or Sun coming,

Still time for your bfp, hope you enjoy the wedding and then you can test the other side of it having enjoyed the drinks!

purplemurple1 Tue 04-Feb-14 17:38:29

Sorry just realised you've been to the wedding -maybe it's me that's been on the drink wine

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