The Elderberry Gluckschmerzers who sausage wang between the Sofa of Pity and the Pouffe of Possibility  (thread 11) 

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Bunnygirlie Tue 18-Jun-13 08:30:55

Come and join us elderly TTCers on the Sofa of Pity (SoP), Rug of Rage (RoR), the Pouffe of Possibility (PoP) or the Chaise Lounge of Limbo (CLoL) whilst trying to avoid the BubbleBath of Gloom(BoG)!
 
The smallprint - Berries have a strict entrance criteria (TTC #1, over 30, TTC for 3+months, NO instadiffers, must have a special pot) and def no mention of baby dust or baby dancing UGH !!! Ooh we are strict...please note your house may be at risk if you do not keep up repayments lol

Pipbin Wed 19-Jun-13 21:22:39

Evening Elderberries.

I haven't really vanished, it's just that we have stopped trying and with moving and stuff I've not go round to posting here.

So what BFPs have I missed?

AF is due tomorrow here. When she arrives I have to phone the IVF clinic and all that business starts! I have to wait 21 days then all the drugs turn up!

Bunnygirlie Wed 19-Jun-13 21:31:39

I agree boom baby showers are stoooooid! Why do we have to be like the Americans (sorry Sid). I think a nice little get together with friends before your life changes for ever would be fun but not silly games etc. Mind you I didn't like that sort of hen do either, mine was quite sedate!

UGH why does everything I watch on tv have babies in it, Greys Anatomys lead had a baby, when I turn onto Friends it's either Phoebe or Rachel having babies or Monica trying to have babies, even in the sci fi stuff the monsters are having babies, now watching CSi and somebody is pg!!! Aaaaaagh!

Gillster Wed 19-Jun-13 21:32:49

I don't recall any discharge after HSG. After having the procedure though the nurse did say that the endometrial lining may have been disturbed so best not to TTC. I carried on regardless mind you for the good it did me!

Had mortifying moment in the B&B this morning - had a little accident on the pristine white bed linen last night despite adopting belt and braces approach (tampon and towel) but AF was crazily heavy last night, hence my accident. DH slept completing through it! Very sheepishly told the lady owner about it who to be fair seemed very understanding. It wasn't made easier by her husband being in earshot though. blush

Went on 42 mile bike ride with DH in the lovely weather although my bum is now in tatters. Sitting down tomorrow is going to be emotional ladies!

Glad you got your sweeties barking although consultant does sound like a bit of an arse. I hope my new consultant on 2nd July is a bit more understanding.

Bunnygirlie Wed 19-Jun-13 21:33:48

Good to see you pip my fellow OB (original berry), drugs how exciting!!!

And you haven't missed any BFPs, just a load of bastard AFs arrive this weeksad

MrsB00Mbastic Wed 19-Jun-13 21:40:13

Ugh a fortnight kitty, really? Well that knocks any amorous thoughts I may have had on the head! And yeah, papier mache describes it quite well I suppose. SIGH. Def no surprise BFP for us this month/quarter then! I feel like I haven't had a good bonk in aaaages because I actually haven't

Hi Pip! Nice to see you, oooh not long til it all gets real then! Exciting!

Gil ah dear well I'm sure it's happened to us all at some point, and I bet she's had worse things to deal with (I used to clean caravans in France over summer and you would not BELIEVE the filth people will leave behind them....GAK) Hope your bum doesn't fall off!

Bunny there's no escaping. Bumps are everywhere angry

SidneyBristow Wed 19-Jun-13 22:25:43

barking! sweeties, yay! Your consultant sounds like a prize ass, so you know he must be good! wink the dismissive tone of the whole '2 year' thing bugs me; if you're on cycle 20 then your 2 year anniversary is almost here, so why the condescending attitude? Remind me again, when did you go to the GP and from there he long did it take to get referred, and then to see someone?

Hiya pip, Yvette had a busy few months & I'm psyched for you that rye getting so close to some action!

gillster blush on your behalf, but I'm sure she appreciated beig told, rather than being left to find it. boom my mind is a very dark place now that you've put the idea of French caravan filth into it!

bunny no offense about the baby shower. In our defense I don't think the super tacky shower is the norm; I've been to a few and they were all very tasteful, more like an afternoon tea than a hen do-type level of outrageousness only with a baby theme. There's no way on God's green earth I'd eat chocolate out of a diaper.

CD19 here, ho hum...

BlindKitty Wed 19-Jun-13 22:39:02

Just so everyone knows, when I'm pregnant I DEFO want a baby shower! With shed loads of presents!! I think I deserve it!!!

boom thinking about it I don't think I actually had it until 2 weeks later!

Bunnygirlie Wed 19-Jun-13 22:42:12

sid who is yvette and does she eat a lot of rye?!?!? confused lol

I once went to a BS (great abbreviation with 2 meanings loo) wher we had to gues what was in the nappy ick!

Tallyra Wed 19-Jun-13 22:55:46

Ohh, ohh, ohh, I got a lettter from the nhs today.

You know I was told the scan would take about 2 months before the appointment? Well, it's on the 4th July!!! BUT, it's not just a scan. I think I was imagining it would be a bit like the HSG you are all describing, but the letter I got was pretty serious, and at the bottom there was a pin, bit of paper that basically told me not to eat anything after 7.30 am or drink after 11.03, and that it was a general anesthetic procedure. Now I'm a bit scared! But I've been under for 3 erpcs (DnCs) so it can't be any worse than that, surely. BUT, the doctor did say that if they find any scarring, they can sort it out there and then, so now I'm thinking they are going to be fiddling around for ages while I'm asleep and I'll come out bleeding even more than I have in the past. I think I need some brew and biscuit to calm me down now...

SidneyBristow Wed 19-Jun-13 23:03:18

Ugh damn you autocorrect! Should've said you've had a busy few months, and you're, not rye confused

Tally are you scared, or excited? Would,think both reactions would be normal! At least you haven't got long to be kept in suspense!

Aquarius1 Wed 19-Jun-13 23:09:27

evening ladies - good thread name and I am definitely feeling the gluckshmaltz or whatever it is.

tally don't be scared and do have plenty of biscuit but not too much brew as it'll keep you awake. I might also have to have a general anaesthetic in the not too distant future for a laparoscopy (sp?) and I've never been under before. like you i'd be concerned about bleeding afterwards but it's more the thought of what they might find that concerns me. at least if they do find something they can hopefully fix it.

Off to see GP first thing tomorrow for a catch up and another day 21 test so hope to find out more then.

Cd21 here and happily/dozily slouched on the CLoL. had horrible irrational argument with DH this am sad haven't managed to apologise to each other yet but hoping to shortly...

ps hello pip and that's very exciting - hope the move has gone well and you're all settled in smile

sid we waited the required 12 months then saw the gp in December. She ordered the blood tests and SA and did an internal examination then referred us to the fc in February. We got an appointment with the nurse in April and she booked me in for the hsg and the dildocam and we got the appointment with the consultant today, so June. We now have 6 months of clomid and a follow up appointment in December, by which point we will have been trying over 2 years which is the required amount of time of ttc to be referred to the assisted conception unit. I've no idea how long the wait is after that given it took 6 months from GP to the fc consultant.

thunder I decided to avoid the BS (great abbreviation). However, after the hospital we went to the nearby pub for a quick bite to eat. Only available seat was by a party. Didn't notice until we sat down that it was a.... yes. A BS. angry With banners and balloons and baby gifts displayed on the table.
The irony of walking out of the fertility clinic, where I had to sit in the waiting room for my scan with pg women clutching their 'maternity' packs, into a pub hosting a baby shower, was not appreciated. angry

And just to further rub it in, got home to find a fb message from friend expecting twins inviting me to her BS. I genuinely can't go to that one. grin

tally your scan sounds scary but good, very good news if they can immediately sort out any damage instead of putting you on another wait smile .

Oh, and my sweeties will be put away until next cycle. DP gulped when I asked him what the chances were of dtd in 10 days. Then made some lovely comment about it depending on whether I wanted to risk him leaving scabs inside me. Nice. <need throwing up smiley>. So sweeties definitely not starting yet!!

Tallyra Thu 20-Jun-13 01:11:09

had a laparoscopy too aquarius. that's not too bad, as there are only tiny inscisions. Mine was for a oesophageal hernia though so the recovery from that took a while. I still look like I have stab marks in my belly though. they're quite cool scars really. grin

BlindKitty Thu 20-Jun-13 05:58:04

barking urghh at scabs!!!!

tally this is the first step to getting youre baby, don't be scared xxxx

Morning all,

Got a headache and can't sleep sad

boom yeah we were on the ttc after mc board together. Were you on any boards before that?

sid your typos are making me chuckle. I was thinking who the hell is Yvette?!

tally this letter is brilliant news. So soon AND it sounds like they're really going to get you checked out and hopefully sorted? Sounds great to me! I would be the same as you re trepidation too but it'll be done before you know it.

barking OUCH about walking out of the frying pan into the BS fire. That is just not cricket. Good that you can't go to the other BS! I think they should just be avoided. Except for blind's of course.......

Bunnygirlie Thu 20-Jun-13 08:36:19

Crikey it's been a busy thread since I went to bed!

Ooh tally how scary exciting for you! So soon! 

Good to see you aquarius, how is the CLoL? 

barking oh no, not anotherBS! That's crappy! and ewwwwww to the scabs!

Here in the bunny household we are just waiting for AF to leave, this weekend we have a christening (the one for fertile friend, I am to be godmum to 1 of the 4), thank goodness AF emotions will be gone by then, these things are tough enough aren't they girls!?!

MrsB00Mbastic Thu 20-Jun-13 09:45:24

Morning berries!

Well I'm supposed to be on placement today but none of my mentors wanted me sad so it's another day doing dissertation for me! Feeling chuffed with the essay mark I got yesterday, just scraped a 1st. If I manage to get 77 in my dissertation I might JUST get a 1st overall - whilst it's not the be all and end all it would be lovely!

Tally oh fantastic news about the appointment! Hope excitement is overriding worry. Fingers crossed that this is your fast track to BFP grin

thunder no, just that one. I'm a monogamous MNer, one thread at once!

barking <shudder> scabs <shudder> good call to wait!! Can't believe another BS showed up, hope you gave them a good dose of the evils. All BS (apart from kitty's of course) are just so wrong.

Bunny christenings are almost as pants as baby showers. In fact all ceremonial rubbing-of-babies-in-infertile-peoples'-faces occasions are pants.

sid excellent work on the typos!

Hey aquarius! Hope you're having a chilled-out time on the CLoL. When is AF expected to show her ugly face although of course she won't because this is a positive thread where we all get diffed

FFS just turned on telly for a quick ten minutes while I have brekkie - straight into an episode of House where some woman is giving birth. Like I don't have enough of this at work... hmm

SidneyBristow Thu 20-Jun-13 12:28:39

Thanks for the timeline barking. We'll hit the 1yr mark in a couple of weeks, and I guess will then start on the referral path. Not sure which is worse, a BS after your consultation or the idea of shag souvenir scabs..

Re: christenings & BSs, what I hate is the guilty feeling for all the emotions they bring out in me, esp since happiness for the baby/parents isn't anywhere near top of the list. I hate that in the last few months this feeling of desperation has crept in, and that I can't even see a pregnant stranger in the street without thinking 'boo hoo why not me!' Alternately sometimes when I see a pg stranger I think it's good omen from the universe to remind me to keep the faith. utterly bonkers and exhausting. I dread when my mother finds out my cousin's crazy wife is having a girl; she'll either bang on about it, or will bring it up gently like I'm the crazy unpredictable person. hmm might have a point there

Happy dissertation day Boom, happy Thursday to everyone else! AF, clear out and don't come back, we need some BFPs!!!

Foodylicious Thu 20-Jun-13 18:53:21

Hi girlies, hope you doing ok, not too chatty at the moment, but just marking my place for in a bit

Tallyra Thu 20-Jun-13 20:09:52

hugs foody!

MrsB00Mbastic Thu 20-Jun-13 20:14:31

Just taken the dog to her first proper dogtraining class. Was expecting her to be the dunce but lo and behold, there were other dogs who were waaaaaay worse! I feel a lot better about our dimwit spaniel now!

In other news, the weird post-hycosy discharge has now given way to a mini-AF type bleed..I'm assuming I DON'T count this as the beginning of a new cycle though...??

Hello foody!

Bunnygirlie Thu 20-Jun-13 20:16:33

Helloooooooo anybody here?  <looks around and settled onto the PoP>

sid I know what you mean, I feel bad that the first thing I think of when I hear about somebody being pg is why isn't it my turn, rather than how lovely for them!

Hey foody hope you are ok! 

MrsB00Mbastic Thu 20-Jun-13 20:34:35

<Jumps around directly in bunny's line of sight>

I'm here bunny I am me me me!!

I can't decide where to sit tonight. Is it the CLoL because I STILL can't dtd or the PoP in case I get Clomid next week? Or the RoR because I won't be able to take said sweeties for at least another two months even if I do get them??

sid & *bunny when I hear a mate is pg/given birth, or just see a random pg woman or woman with baby, my automatic reaction is bitch! whether I know their story or not, it's like tourettes, I can't stop myself!! Fortunately I don't say it out loud, it's just in my head. at least I think it is

I've got to the stage now where if I find out someone is even trying I get this grrrr as I'm scared they're going to start trying, get pg, have the baby, and I'll still be trying!!!! It upsets me that people who started trying after we did are now having real life babies, and I don't even have a bump yet. Technically, if I was a super fertile instdiffer I could have given birth twice in the time I've been trying!!! How depressing is that?!

Boom I found I turned into the kind of parent I hate at school when I took my dog to training classes. My dog had to be the best. I was ridiculously competitive each week very sad behaviour and very judgmental of other dog owners who clearly hadn't been following the advice of the trainers. blush

I'll be on the CLoL for a while with you Boom, clutching Clomid tightly in one hand and waiting desperately to be able to use it!!!

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