We will try anything! The big fat posifrickintivity thread of TTC after MC

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GuffSmuggler Fri 14-Jun-13 15:51:41

A new thread for all you lovely, crazy ladies. Here's to lots of BFPs!

Trinpy Sun 21-Jul-13 18:53:29

will post this here rather than new thread - sal god only knows when af is due. I have stupidly long luteal phases due to my hormones being all over the place; I've had a few 28 day lps in the past so I expect I'm in for another one of those. I'm 19 dpo today. Have read on mc association website that women with irregular cycles are more likely to mc, so I am also blaming myself for all this.

The fact that you're in your mid 30s shouldn't be causing all this. And you didnt put your career first - you were building a future for your family. I could've popped one out at 19 when I first met dh and my fertility was perfect but we wouldn't have made very good parents. You made decisions based on what you thought was best and you have been very unlucky, but that's not your fault.

Sorry for the mammoth post!

fod27 Sun 21-Jul-13 18:37:21

Still got lots to do cam mainly invest in non alcoholic wine for the reception lol, I'm guessing I'm a week as AF is due to arrive the 28th

katatonic Sun 21-Jul-13 18:03:05

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katatonic Sun 21-Jul-13 18:02:33

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CamomileHoneyVanilla Sun 21-Jul-13 16:10:05

Sorry, was excited by seeing fod again and didn't read any further up. Sorry to hear people are having low posifrickintivity days. Have some flowers.

You're not mean for feeling mean Sal. I had an absolute hissy fit when my bf announced her pregnancy after my mc (and she did it perfectly nicely). I just don't think it's possible to help the mixed feelings when you want something so bad. It will happen.

Penguin - I've completely been there re. feeling that I've put my career first. Just remember that once your kids get bigger they'll have an ace role model in you!

CamomileHoneyVanilla Sun 21-Jul-13 15:59:47

Hey fod. Course we remember you. Delighted you've got your bfp and really glad alls ok! Congratulations. Do you have any guestimate at all about how far on you ate? Come over to the grads thread if you fancy. How are the wedding preparations coming on?

fod27 Sun 21-Jul-13 15:48:37

Hi guys..... I'm a oldish member returning with some posifrickintivity!!! I'm not sure how many of you are left but those of you that are still here may like to know that not only am I back on feet, I get married in four weeks....,, and with all the planning totally forgot about TTC. You can imagine my shock after devouring a fish salad and feeling someone nauseous especially as I adore fish... Sooooo as I had a test left in the cupboard I thought I'd give it a go.... Big Strong BFP!!!

I know how frustrating it is when people disappear from here and never return and I understand how soul destroying the TTC journey is, I just wanted to give someone a light at the end of their tunnel, let's hope it's a sticky bean ;)

katatonic Sun 21-Jul-13 14:20:47

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Penguinita Sun 21-Jul-13 13:15:01

Omg sal, feels like I could have written your last post, I really sympathise with you. I'm also trying for my first at 36, I have a younger sister with a six year old DC who breezed through pregnancy, and I feel really mean but I struggle to be happy at anyone's pregnancy or baby news - unless I know they have also had a hard time getting there like the ladies on this thread, in which case I feel sisterly solidarity!

I also keep thinking this is my punishment for putting my career first for so long and being on the pill for 15 years.

But let's keep our chins up - we will all get there eventually flowers

Sal1977 Sun 21-Jul-13 12:51:34

My spotting has started again so 99.9% sure AF is parking up!

Just had my monthly cry, same old shit going round my brain...I'm so old to be trying for my first (nearly 36), what if I never have a child, why won't my body do what it was put on this earth to do, I'd only have 11 weeks left if my body hadn't hit 'reject', I resent my younger sister for saying they're thinking about a third DC when I started trying (with ex hubby) before they did on their first, I wish I could just 'relax' and I'd fall pregnant, I feel mean when someone who already has a child (who invariably fell pg within a month or so) tries to sympathise as they are 'struggling' on month 3 and feel wretched about it as I have no sympathy and I want to scream 'well at least you are a mum, be grateful!!!'.

I'll be ok again in a couple of days, I just really thought we'd nailed it this month. sad

Penguinita Sun 21-Jul-13 11:25:26

Oh boo trinpy sad

{{links virtual arms with sal and trinpy in a show of defiance against AF arriving}}

Sal1977 Sun 21-Jul-13 11:05:48

When is AF actually due Trinpy?

Trinpy Sat 20-Jul-13 22:07:20

Well I caved and tested. bfn. expected it really but still disappointed.

Just checking in, have skimmed the thread but haven't been on in ages, it took a while! Congrats rainbow on your news!

DH hadn't wanted to try for a couple of months as he is still out of work, but after we got our hopes up last month after a lateish AF he has said we should go for it this month - which I am worried about with the work thing but as it is the summer hols and I should be more relaxed, I think we will TTC this month at least. If I did get a BFP I would be due the same time as DD - which was nightmare of a time in terms of school to be off as around exams etc and I teach a practical subject so I am hoping the law of sod will work in my favour...

We are off to Norfolk camping for a week or so this coming week, we haven't planned anything or booked, we will just see where we fancy going - which is an upside of DH being off, plus the fact he can get all the jobs done on the house that have been waiting since DD was born. Plus being away means more chance to DTD but with DD in a tent it could be difficult! Will have to wait till she is asleep.

I am not using OPK's this month either, just because I ran out and haven't got around to ordering more. Will see how it goes just by my symptoms and dates as I am very regular.

Good luck to everyone, I am trying to wean myself off MN whilst away but I am sure I will be using my phone to check the thread..

Sal1977 Sat 20-Jul-13 20:27:10

penguin!! Nooo!!! What a pisser. Well like they say, it's not over til the fat lady sings and I am well and truly keeping my gob shut grin

I've spent the day at Gay Pride in Plymouth doing a stall for the salon I rent a room in. Lots of fun and some very interesting sights! The guy that owns the salon does a drag act and was introducing all the acts crazy world I now find myself in and I've squeezed in a couple of cheeky pints of cider as AF seems to be on her way!

Trinpy Sat 20-Jul-13 12:46:43

Sorry to hear about your dh kat. Hope the results are good.

penguin enjoy your wine tonight! I'm sure I read that there's several months after mc when youre more fertile, so next month could be your month.

Really regret not poas yesterday. I know I was told on here I should. Now on constant knicker-watch waiting for af to come.

Penguinita Sat 20-Jul-13 08:38:22

I couldn't resist it, I POAS last night, BFN as expected sad

Even though my head knew that would be the result from the signs, I can't help feeling disappointed. Especially as the first couple of cycles after MC are supposed to be the most fertile.

But I've cheered myself up by having an online shopping spree - so far today I have bought a CBFM, some sticks for it, ten pregnancy tests and two nail varnishes. And I've put an expensive bottle of white in the fridge for later. So I feel a bit better now grin

Sorry to hear about your DH kat. At least they have picked it up early and are doing something about it. Fingers crossed for next week's results for you.

Sal1977 Fri 19-Jul-13 23:10:36

.Saggy I've had it yesterday and today which is 10&11dpo. I also spotted around OV which is odd for me. TBH I think if is a slow start to AF.

Kat try not to think the worst about your man, chances are its nothing. A serious health worry puts it all into perspective though doesn't it!? FX for you both. Xx

Penguin stay strong lovely, I think I'm out, but its not over til that fat cow AF properly arrives!!

fedupofrainydays Fri 19-Jul-13 22:27:35

I think I ovulated today and DH isn't even here. Where is a syringe when you need one?!

kata i hope your DH is ok and MRI doesn't show up anything scary. But liking your new posifrickintivity.

Course not rainbow - it's just heartening to see some bfps! You give us hope!

sazza no buses here so you are in the right place. Sounds like you have had a really tough time. Good luck with the doctor.

katatonic Fri 19-Jul-13 21:38:22

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Penguinita Fri 19-Jul-13 21:21:35

Oh boo sal, how cr$p. But maybe there is a small chance that it isn't AF?

Hi sazza, what a rotten run of luck you've had. You sound really positive though. Hope it turns round for you and goes well with the GP.

Hmm, honeymoon at the parents doesn't sound very romantic thatsofunny! Hope you have something a bit more private planned for later in the year.

We're gonna need a new thread soon... shock

Thatssofunny Fri 19-Jul-13 21:04:37

Thanks for the advice cosmic, penguinita and alyant. I think we'll start trying as soon as the brown stuff stops and I get a negative test (did one of the really early ones today and still get a faint result,...but looking likely to have gone completely by next week). Quite possibly ready to get going after our wedding, when we get back home. We are spending the week after the wedding at my parents' house, so not the best place to re-start ttc. blush grin But hey, we should still manage to start during the summer holidays.

cosmic Are you secondary? What kind of alternative education are you looking to go into? (I can't wait for the holidays!)

Trying to get some private medical cover at the moment. Let's see if there's anything we can get sorted. Was going to do this a few weeks ago, but then got the positive test and they wouldn't have covered the pregnancy anymore. Still want to go and see a gyno and don't understand why I need to see a nurse in this country or a GP...instead of a specialist doctor. I'm not seeing my GP for dental issues either, after all.

SeasideLily Fri 19-Jul-13 20:56:17

Hey, don't worry at all Rainbow - it's reassuring to know that occasionally sperm actually can meet egg and bury themselves in the right place. I need that reminder!

3 poos = 3 pregnancies! grin

RainbowConnections Fri 19-Jul-13 20:14:03

Thanks for the congrats. Trying not to get too excited as such an early test. Hope it wasnt insensitive to say about 3 pregnancies this year (its not like its got me far!), realised after it was the wrong thing to say.
Sorry there's no BFPs today. Fingers crossed for rest of month.

DH was pooed on by pigeons 3 times in one lunch break in St James Pk.

Cosmic sounds like a nice hairdresser. Hope you look great and you and husband get on ok at christening.

SaggyOldClothCatPuss Fri 19-Jul-13 19:17:21

What CD are you on Sal?

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